When the one you thought would never leave does exactly that, it's time to learn the eight amazing ways to win him back. As I have discovered in my almost forty years, Ben and Jerry's ice cream is not conducive to this goal. I know; Karamel Sutra is melt-in-your-mouth delicious, but the answer to relationship problems does not exist in the small tub of yummy goodness. Instead of being counter-productive, let's learn the eight amazing ways to win him back!
1. Make Him Miss You
Giving a man plenty of space is among the more productive ways to win him back. It allows you both time to reflect on what went wrong and determine how each of you are culpable for the breakup. This allows him time to miss you and to discover that he may also want you back. If the two of you argued, this space allows you both time to calm down and become more level-headed.
2. Someone, Call an Exorcist!
With my most devastating breakup, it was difficult to get my emotions in check. However, I discovered that fighting through the mood swings and these out-of-control emotions to find a balance was necessary. Once you find that balance you make more rational decisions. This additionally improves your behavior. The last thing you want is to have the opportunity to talk to him and turn into an emotional basket-case. Let's tame your emotions and take the right steps!
3. Dress like the Rockstar You Are
Nothing makes a man crawl back to you like jealousy. And the simplest way to accomplish this goal is to remind him what he's missing. If he's praised you for a specific dress in the past that made you look amazing—wear it! You should dare to wear those heels that accentuate your legs or that dress that made your girls the center of his attention. However, don't overdo it, as it makes you appear to be trying entirely too hard.
4. Team Efforts
Invite him to his favorite sporting events or activities. If there are any activities that he's requested that you share with him, consider a small compromise. Do not, however, become a part of any activity that makes you uncomfortable. The goal is to show that you are willing to compromise for the greater good of the relationship. This does not mean compromise who you are in the process.
5. Focus, Focus, Focus!
By remaining centered on the overall goal, you can achieve your goals. Your objective is to win him back, not to scare him away. Be cautious of behavior patterns that make him uncomfortable. Do not call him every hour on the hour or show up unannounced at his place. These behaviors do not reflect a rational, mature adult. They borderline on obsession instead of love. You want to draw him in with good behaviors.
6. Non-conjugal Visits
One of the biggest mistakes to make when you are trying to get him back is to give it up. It doesn't matter how much you love him, do not sleep with him. If he believes he can get it without the establishment of a relationship, he will. This is time you both should work on repairing your relationship. If you are allowing him to have the best of the relationship without the commitment, he will not make an attempt to fix the problems.
7. Be Spontaneous
It is easy to fall into a routine during a long-term relationship. The problem with this is that it becomes boring. By showing him that you can be unpredictable, you are reminding him why he fell in love with you in the first place. It allows you both to have fun and forget your worries. Allow yourself to be silly and a bit of a free spirit, this will intrigue him and allow him to relax more around you.
8. Time Heals All Wounds
Relationships need time to heal and to grow. It is necessary to take this process one day at a time and refrain from rushing. When a breakup occurs, it is time to reassess your overall goals. If you really want to get back together, you must determine if you are, in fact, right for each other. The only way to discover this factor is by taking the time needed for this epiphany moment.
Breakups are never easy and present us with tough obstacles. Some relationships survive and are rekindled, and others open the door to life-long friendships. What are some tricks you have utilized to win back an old flame?