If you're sexually active, you should know all there is to know about sex. Of course, that means you should study up on oral as well as penetrative sex. According to Self, here are a few blowjob myths that need to die:
Don't feel like a failure if you can't get your mouth all the way down. You don't have to deep throat him in order to make him happy. Just use your hands along with your mouth to reach the areas your tongue can't get!
The idea that a BJ isn't great without the deep throat move is a myth. Truth is, your enthusiasm and attention to his pleasure zones count for a lot. Mix it up with varied pressure, the magic of your tongue, and don't forget the underrated power of eye contact. Remember, communication is key – check in with your partner to find out what drives him wild. After all, it's the connection and mutual enjoyment that truly make the experience unforgettable, not how deep you can go.
You're not always in the mood for sex, and he's not going to be, either. That means you shouldn't feel bad if you get rejected once or twice. It's normal.
The pervasive myth that a man's appetite for oral sex is unyielding is just that—a myth. Sexual desire can be as varied in men as it is in women, and a multitude of factors can influence his mood. Stress, fatigue, or even personal preferences can come into play. Remember, his refusal is more often than not about him, not about you. Communication is key, and understanding your partner's boundaries and desires is crucial for a healthy and happy sexual relationship.
You can't get pregnant from oral sex, but you could still get an STD. That means that it's "real sex," so don't assume that you're safe if you're only giving oral.
While you may have heard a few whispers suggesting that oral isn't quite the full deal, let's set the record straight: any sexual act—whether it involves penetration or not—is very much part of the sexual experience. It's not just an appetizer to the main course; it can be the main event all on its own! And, honey, it's not just about the risks; giving and receiving pleasure is a two-way street that deserves its own recognition. So, if you're enjoying the intimate connection and the thrill of the act, you're definitely in the thick of "real sex."
Don't let him hurt you. If he pushes your head down and makes you choke, then set him straight. He shouldn't be acting like you're his sex toy.
While some men might think it's okay to guide your head during oral sex, remember that consent and comfort are key. Communicate your boundaries clearly; if you feel uncomfortable or disrespected, it's important to speak up. A considerate partner will understand and respect your feelings. Enthusiasm should be mutual and never forced. Oral sex is a part of intimacy that should be enjoyable for both of you, so assert your agency over your body and experience.
You can stop giving him oral and start having penetrative sex. You could also stop and give him a hand job, instead. Give your mouth a break if you need it.
Men don't always finish as quickly as we assume they will. It can take them some time. If it takes him a few minutes to finish, then don't feel bad about your skills. It has nothing to do with you.
Sure, speed could be a sign of prowess, but it's also about reading the room, mixing it up, and communication. Everyone's different. Some folks love a quick burst to the finish line, while others prefer the scenic route, making the journey last. And let's be real, a touch of teasing and tantalizing can add to the heat of the moment. If your partner is in it for the long haul, embrace the opportunity to explore and expand your repertoire. Besides, your confidence and enthusiasm can be the biggest turn-on of all!
No, men don't like teeth, but that doesn't mean it's the end of the world if you accidentally touch him with them. As long as you don't scrape his skin and cut it, he'll survive.
This is one of the biggest blowjob myths out there. No, there isn't one position. He can lay down, stand, you can kneel, 69, you lay down while he's above you, and many more. Figure out what you like and what works best and go with it. At the very least you'll have fun trying different positions!
Many people mistakenly think that there's a one-size-fits-all approach to oral sex, but variety is the spice of life! Just as every person is unique, so too are their preferences and comforts. Whether it’s experimenting with angles, using pillows for support, or even trying it in different locations, there are countless ways to mix things up. Remember, communication with your partner is key—talk about what feels good and what doesn't. Keep an open mind, and you may be surprised at how much pleasure you can both discover by stepping out of the proverbial box.
Uh... No. No it's not. Cotton mouth happens. To your benefit there is flavored lube to help make the process easier (and tastier). Just be sure it's condom compatible as well as safe for intercourse if that's your after plan.
Absolutely, hydration is key, but even the wettest whistle cannot compare to a quality lube. And go beyond just flavor – consider texture and longevity. A pro tip: a little lube on the inside tip of the condom can also enhance pleasure for him. However, steer clear of oil-based lubes if you're using latex condoms as they can cause the material to deteriorate. Always read labels to ensure safety and compatibility. Plus, lubes can minimize any jaw discomfort, making the experience enjoyable for all involved. Enjoy the smooth ride!
This is false. While the uncircumcised penis does have more foreskin which is more sensitive than the uncircumcised one, it requires different stimulation. There's nothing wrong with asking your man what he likes to perfectly please him during the act.
What other ridiculous myths have you heard in the past?