Can Men πŸ§” and Women πŸ‘© Ever Really Be πŸ€” Just Friends 😁?

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Ever wondered can men and women ever really be just friends? Look, platonic relationships between men and women exist. Nobody should be so bold as to assume that there are ZERO platonic relationships between people who could be attracted to one other. The world is big and the people in it are powerful enough to achieve very significant and (perhaps) counterintuitive feats. But how frequent or likely are platonic relationships between men and women? This question

of can men and women ever really be just friends is unfortunately flawed.

There is no real answer to the question about the likelihood of friendships between men and women because it fails to consider the psychological and emotional mindset of both people involved, and I’m sorry, I know this is not the answer you were looking for. In truth, the existence of a genuine platonic relationship between a guy and a girl depends on the internal workings of each respective person. So the age-old question β€œcan you be friends with the opposite sex,” put plainly, sucks. However, there is a more appropriate replacement and it’s: β€œCan you be friends with the opposite sex (or the sex you are attracted to)?” Well? Can you? If you can, well then you can, and that’s great. But here are the conditions in which a platonic relationship is doomed to fail.

If you always fall for a friend of the opposite sex, here are some of my hypotheses as to why.

1. It’s Evolution Baby

Researchers at Harvard in the 1970s generated the theory of parental investment and sexual selection. Since eggs are scarce and sperm is abundant, women are more selective and men are more competitive when choosing their mates. Many researchers have since built off of this pioneering idea but in terms of how it applies here – if you are a man who finds platonic relationships with women impossible, you might have a strong (conscious or subconscious) instinctual drive to compete for women with the goal of dating and mating, making platonic relationships impossible.

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