3. Defensiveness

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Problems with defensiveness often arise in a marriage, thanks to the close quarters that you are now living in. Going hand in hand with criticism, defensiveness can arise when you are so annoyed by constant belittling that you finally decide to put up a wall and not let your partner in anymore.

Once this defensive wall is up, it can be very hard to pull back down again. To avoid this, it’s important for both parties to accept responsibility for their end of a dispute. That way, nobody feels victimised or to blame, and you can move on with an equal share of blame and praise for both having found the solution.

These are three major causes of marriage breakdown but they apply equally to non-married relationships. What others can you add?


Camille Anne Rancourt
Not only will it prevent from arranging problems, it will create more and then they both will end up cutting communication because they do not feel heard ..
Camille Anne Rancourt
In fact, as it’s written communication is a way to prevent there problems but if one’s do not try to listen and really learn from what’s being said by your chosen partner it will be not only felt by your significant other .
Camille Anne Rancourt
I love your point and I am sure it’s true! But I think that lack of significant communication could be added as well.
Lisa Marie Obrotka
I've given up hope that I will ever get married. When I was younger I should have went right not left
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