Every girl needs a few classy ways to dump someone. When we go into a new relationship, we all hope that it will be the one that lasts forever, but unfortunately, more often than not, that simply isn’t the case. When you can sense that it is time to move on from your current relationship, the only way to move on with your life in a healthy and productive way is to break up. However, there are definitely good ways of dumping someone and bad ways of dumping someone! It is always good to leave things on good terms if possible, and this might be more achievable if you choose to dump someone in one of these classy ways to dump someone.
1. Don’t Be Hasty
This is one of the most important classy ways to dump someone. Even if you want the relationship to be over and done with, you partner probably deserves a little more respect than a quick cut and run. Take some time to think about what you are going to say, and try to come up with some lines that show them that you care but you need to move on. Perhaps even write up a pros and cons list to help you with decision making.
2. From Your Own Mouth
Make sure that they don’t hear of your intentions to break up with them from somebody else before you have worked up the courage to actually do the deed. Keep your ‘in the know’ circle as small as possible, and pick your confidants wisely so that they don’t pose the risk of letting the cat out of the bag too early. It needs to be from your mouth and your mouth alone.
3. Appropriate Timing
Try to choose a time that feels appropriate for the dumping. For example, on their birthday probably isn’t ideal! Think about whatever you are planning on doing, and consider if would you like it if someone broke up with you in that way? If the answer is no, then you should probably rethink your plan and come up with something more sensitive.
4. Be Honest
Don’t bring out any of the old ‘let them down easy’ clichés like 'it’s not you, it’s me.' and all of that. If there is a defined reason that you are breaking up with them, it is best that they know it, because otherwise they will be left hanging and could take that with them into their next relationship. A clean break is the best way to go, but you need to be up front with your reasoning too.
5. Set Boundaries
After you have done the deed, make sure that you set some strong boundaries for yourself with regards to contact after the breakup. It might be a good idea to mute or delete your ex from your social media, both to save him from seeing your future life choices, and you from seeing his.
6. Manage the Fallout
You need to be mature about how to reorganise your life after breaking up. Do all of your asset splitting etc. as soon as possible so that you can leave your ex to start fresh, rather than keep popping up in his life with a new request every now and then.