There are some really important dating lessons every mother should teach her daughter. I'm still totally obsessed with the idea that we are radically responsible for our romantic (and other) misfortunes. With this post, I’m moving away from clinical psychology and theory to get a little personal.
Today, I was thinking about my two beautiful daughters and what it will be like when they start dating. My brain immediately began the torture with memories of a time when I was a flaming hot mess in the dating world. I mean, yikes, I needed to get my mind right. No wonder why I became a psychologist. Today, I am horrified by the thought that my angels could do anything that is self-sabotaging or disrespectful toward themselves or anyone else. Yeah yeah, don't worry, I will let my kids make their own mistakes, but if and when they want my advice, I will definitely have something to express. I just hope my guidance as effective as my husband's approach to their future dates.
Now my advice on dating lessons every mother should teach her daughter.
1. Don't Chase Anyone!
When you find yourself with a crush, you don’t have to be shy about it. Let it be known because there is nothing wrong with liking someone and finding someone pretty great. However, if they do not have the feels for you in return, MOVE ON! There is no sense in waiting on someone, chasing someone, or thinking about someone who is not spending any of their time doing the same for you. You deserve much more and are worth much more. And if your crush does not have a crush on you, this does not mean that you suck. Chin up. Move on. You are amazing. That's one of the best dating lessons every mother should teach her daughter.