It’s an urge you have to fight. You have to. Texting your ex can end up in so many scenarios, probably none of which are any good for your self-respect, sense of self or well-being. They probably won’t do your tear ducts any good either. On a rare occasion, there may be a happy ending but why take the risk? Just don’t do it…
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1. As a General Rule, Let’s Leave the past in the past
Taking a step backwards and returning to an old point in your life is never the best idea for somebody who wants to move forward. You should never reach in to the past to create a new romantic future.
2. Don’t Come up with Excuses in Order to Try to Contact Him
If you are sat at home wracking your brains over how you can get in touch with him in an unassuming way, then you still care too much and it’s not a great idea to jump back in.
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3. Exercise Some Patience. Things Can Better without Having to Crawl Back to Him
Heartbreak is literally the worst, but what can make it even worse is a temporary reprieve only to split up again a month later. Stay strong and be patient with your feelings.
4. If the Split Was Nasty, then Getting in Touch Won’t Go How You Planned
Just because you are starting to see things in a different way, it does not mean that he will have started to move on. Getting back in touch might reopen the wound and end up with you being hurt all over again.
5. People Don’t Change, at Least Not as Quickly as You Want
What makes you think that he is going to behave any differently to when you walked out on the relationship? People don’t change as quickly as that, and that’s if they ever change at all.
6. You Have Forgotten about All of the Bad Elements of the Relationship
In the dark of night when you are at home and lonely, it might seem like a good idea to get back in touch, but that is only because you are choosing to ignore all of the negative things that split you up in the first place.
7. Don’t Worry about That Sweater at His Apartment, You Can Buy Another
It is not worth getting back in touch and bringing up all of those feelings again just for an old sweater. Let it live at his now. You don’t need to go back just to pick it up!
8. Honor Their Wishes. if They Don’t Want to Speak to You, Don’t Push It
You weren’t the only person who lost a partner, they did too. Just because you want to get back in touch, it doesn’t mean that they are ready or willing to do so too.
9. Don’t Give Them the Satisfaction of Being the One Who Got Away
It’s not a good idea to get back in touch with an ex who you broke up badly with, as it makes you look like you have ‘seen the light’ and have realized you cannot live without them.
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Resisting the urge to message an ex-partner, particularly one you parted with on bad terms, is empowering. It's about maintaining your dignity and self-respect. By not reaching out, you send a clear message that you've moved on and are not clinging to the past. In fact, not giving them the opportunity to reject you again or, even worse, to validate their belief that they were too good for you, is a subtle way of regaining control over the narrative of your previous relationship. Stay strong and focus on building a future that celebrates your worth without them.
10. Think about Your Friends and How Much They Helped You
You were a wreck after the most recent break up and they were there for you. Do you really want to put them through all of that again with the same guy!?
11. You’re Still in Break up Mode, Not Looking Your Best!
Do you really want to arrange to meet up with your ex when you have been rocking bed hair and the same pair of PJs for a week and a half? No, didn’t think so!
12. Don’t Wear Rose Tinted Glasses. Be Honest with Yourself
Deep down inside you know that the relationship was always one-sided on your part. It isn’t worth the time and energy to try again with this undeserving guy.
13. You Didn’t Really Know Him when You Were Together. What’s Changed?
He was always a mystery to you, even when you were at your closest. Now that you have broken up and seen the worst of each other, he will probably be even more distant than before.
14. Don’t Send a Text That You Know is Probably Going to Be Misconstrued
Don’t open yourself up to be being misinterpreted or misunderstood; the text message format isn’t the best for trying to convey complicated emotions.
15. You Deserve Much Better than a Simple Rebound
You’ve been there once and it didn’t work out. What makes you think it will be better a second time? You deserve better than the same old routine with the guy that broke your heart once before.
Comments
Silveris: I should have read this yesterday.. I ll know from now on, thank u
GJP: Words of wisdom indeed
Gabby: After my first (and most recent) relationship ended well, I really needed this! This article really helped me come to terms with the fact that, although my ex and I agreed to stay friends, it won't work and it's not a good idea. Thank you. 😌
Mariana: I loved tve post, but the main picture of the article doesn't maje sense with the topic
Amaa: I know that's so true
Jessie: I need advice on how to get over an ex instead of constantly talking to him!
Brwneyez: So true👍
Asiya: Hey! That's great... I was wondering what my cousin should do if a boy owns her £170 cuz of his uni fees (for her kindness) and he is now asking her for an iPhone... The stupid thing is that they haven't even met ... They live in different counties ...
Jillu: Much needed one for every women i would say. I did each of these mistakes in d past 6 months and now i feel he is not worth my love and time!! Its not easy to go through a breakup. But it's always better to stay away than hurting ourselves!!
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