10 Don'ts of Breaking up Everyone Should Know ...

By Marquitta

Ending a relationship can be an absolute fiasco if you don't know the don'ts of breaking up. Many times, people look back on their break up experiences, and feel embarrassed, humiliated, or ashamed of themselves because of what they did either before, during or after their break up. I'm going to fill you in on the 10 don'ts of breaking up that everyone should know, so you're prepared the next time you're at the close of your relationship.

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1

Don't Go M.I.a

The end of a relationship is always a little stressful, and many times completely awkward, but it's necessary to tell that person you want to end it. Leaving them without a word is one of the biggest don'ts of breaking up! Have respect for yourself and that person by initiating the dreaded yet necessary conversation.

2

Don't Tell Your Mutual Friends before the Person

One of the worst and most embarrassing situations is when your friend goes to console your soon-to-be-Ex and the person's response is nothing but a bewildered facial expression. Awkward! Make sure that person is the first to know to avoid making the break up harder than it has to be.

3

Don't Choose the Wrong Time

Keep in mind what's going on in the other person's life when you're planning to break the news. Waiting the night before that person has to take the Bar exam isn't very considerate. Give the person time to process and deal with it before having to face another big event.

4

Don't Make False Promises

Many times when couple’s break up they still care for one another, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Giving the other person a little encouragement and affirmation that everything will be alright is just fine, but don't promise that you'll be together again in the future. People want closure in a break up, and those empty promises will do everything but provide a sense of closure.

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Don't Try to Be Friends

Trying to be friends is one of the don'ts of breaking up many people overlook because they believe they can make it work. Nine times out of ten, it doesn't work. There are too many feelings involved to have a healthy friendship after the break up. Unless you and the other person are comfortable talking about your new companions with each other, avoid trying to be friends at all costs!

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Don't Stalk the Person

After a break up it's hard not to wonder what the other person is up to, but you have to immediately fight that feeling! When my friend broke up with her boyfriend of 3 years, she saw him after the break up more than she saw him when they were together. He "accidentally" bumped into her at her job a few times swearing he had forgotten she worked there. Aside from being just plain creepy, you'll find that moving on is much harder when you and your Ex are always crossing paths.

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Don't Seek Revenge

If you're the one getting your heart broken, you may have many intense emotions with anger being at number one. If I had to stress one of the don'ts of breaking up, it would be this one. Breaking windows, slashing tires, and inflicting bodily harm on your Ex will never be okay. This type of behavior will lead you to a bad reputation and possibly jail. Use that energy to do something positive and uplifting. Even if you were treated unfairly, be the bigger person and move on; that's the best revenge.

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Don't Bad Mouth

I know a guy who broke up with his girlfriend, and not even twenty minutes later, her Facebook timeline was filled with angry statuses calling him names and claiming that she could do much better anyway. The lesson here is that she tried to make him look like the bad guy, but all it did was make her look nasty and bitter. If you don't have anything positive to say, try not to mention that person at all.

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Don't Let Yourself Go

When your relationship ends, that doesn't mean your life ends. Continue going to work, eating decently,and bathing regularly! It may be hard to continue your daily routine without the person you thought was your soul mate, but embrace the reality that life goes on. Remind yourself that you have value, and take care of yourself.

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Don't Pretend That You're Okay

Break ups hurt, and pretending that everything is "peachy" won't help you. If you're not honest with yourself, the hurt will just get buried deeper and deeper making it much harder to heal. Acknowledge that you're hurt and take some time to mourn. Rent a few movies, listen to break up songs, cry, or talk to a friend. If you deal with your hurt, you'll grow stronger.

Would you like to share anymore advice on what not to do when breaking up? Have you witnessed anyone committing any of the don'ts of breaking up? I'd love to know!

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Me and my ex were bestfriends we told each other every thing we liked each other one and off for a few months then in the summer we started dating after a few weeks into the school year we broke up with each other and now we've still best friends even better friends then before

This is great! This is often what most of us do after a break up and they just make things worse.

@gmo is funny I feel the same but him make me suffer if you truly love someone you never make that person be left out or feel left our ..... We need ice creams lol

@Kadija Raj lucky you I live in melbourne Australia been here since 1994 came here when I was 6 but thinking of moving back to Mexico

Cry is the best remedy , I do not understand why guys act like nothing happen but I guess little by little we all move on eventually yes I'm the one that kept insisting but at least I try it , for me the best med is being laughing and shopping lol and recently cooking , I have more money and I think more time , is also good be available for anything and no just for one person , about revenge I thou about it but I'm not longer life will define , man are sometimes rude , and in my case I was the one saying I'm sorry when it wasn't even my fault ;( good luck girls we will all be fine we still breathing right ???

How about dont do it over the phone or over text- I kno some people do that it has happen to alot of my girlfriends it's rude and immature.

@Kadija Raj but think about a few things? Is he sitting there thinking about you or has he moved on with his life? Because if he is moving on with his life as hard as it might be to do is show him that he has no power or control over your life and emotions. Try to move on and show him everything that he has lost which he could have had. You never know when he realizes that he has lost you and might never get you back and sees others interested he might come back and say he wants to be with you but if that time comes think to yourself do you really want him back? Does he deserve another chance with what he has put you through and could you go through the pain again? We live in a selfish world where everyone thinks only about themselves. So be selfish and put yourself first because if you don't you can't expect others too. And ice cream :p raining here atm :(. also what I'm saying is more in general as I don't know your situation as every relationship is different. so I mean no disrespect nor am I out to offend anyone who might read this

I'm still friends with an ex of mine. We love each other, just not romantically. It's a great thing to still be able to talk to him comfortably.

A guy I've sort of had a thing with for almost a year. He's like really amazing but he only texts me. So I might say this to him; "Hey, I was just wondering, but where do we stand right now? In our relationship. I'm honestly confused. Like we text but that really isn't a relationship is it? I would really love to talk to you sometimes. But I'm scared. That I might get my heartbroken. If you love me, could you tell it to my face?" Would that be good? Or is that too much?

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