Maybe you think you don’t really need to read this article right now, but you never know when you’ll need to learn how to get rid of a persistent admirer. That’s why it’s always best to prepared for anything. A persistent admirer can be quite annoying sometimes, just like a pebble in your shoe. Make sure you know the difference between an admirer and a stalker and if that person turns out to be the last of the two, be careful, try not to lose control over things and even call the police if necessary. Here are a few fail-proof tips on how to get rid of a persistent admirer you should know:
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1. Make Sure You Really Don’t like That Person
Before trying to do anything to get rid of your admirer, try to make sure you really don’t like that person. Are you certain you don’t like him or her? Think very carefully about this, because you will hurt their feelings, so it’s best to not play games with their heart by changing your mind afterwards. If you want to learn how to get rid of a persistent admirer, then you should first try to figure out what your feelings are, so you won’t regret any of your actions later.
2. Be Firm
If you decided you want to get rid of your admirer because he or she has lately become a burden to you, then try to be firm and show him or her you are not interested. Don’t be too hard or too soft on him or her, just don’t be so available and avoid being a people pleaser! Don’t be afraid that you will hurt their feelings by doing nothing at all, because by giving them hope you’ll do them even more harm.
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3. Tell Them You Are Not Interested
This tip is very closely related to the one before. Sometimes, it’s not always enough to show a person you are not interested. You also need to tell them that, so you won’t give them any false hope. Give them arguments about why your feelings are not the same as theirs and don’t come up with all sorts of lame excuses to justify your behavior. Be honest and try to be nice, because you will hurt their feelings after all.
4. Spend Less Time around Them
The best way to show someone you are not interested in a relationship with them is by limiting the amount of time you spend in their company. Just spend as little time as possible around them so you won’t hurt them even more. Give them enough time to heal and if that person is one of your colleagues or one of your co-workers and you simply can’t avoid them, then just reduce the length of your conversations.
5. Tell Them in Person What Your Real Feelings Are
In my opinion, it’s not okay to tell someone how you are feeling about them via phone, mail, Facebook or any other means that will help you avoid confrontation. Show them respect, talk face to face and explain to them why you two can’t be together. If you fear that your admirer will react violently or desperately, then it’s best to choose a public place that will offer you all the protection you’ll need.
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Communicating your feelings directly and respectfully is imperative for closure. A face-to-face conversation ensures clarity and gives them a chance to process your message with dignity. Expressing yourself clearly, without leaving any room for false hopes, can help them move on. Remember, it's about expressing your need to end the admirer's pursuit, so be firm, yet kind. While you prioritize your comfort, also consider their emotions—handle the situation with empathy and grace, ensuring a clean, compassionate break from any unwarranted attention.
6. Act in a Way That Will Make Them Not like You Anymore
If everything else fails, just talk to them and ask them why are they into you so much. What are you doing that makes them feel this way about you? Once you find out the answer to that question, you can start acting around them in the opposite way. Hopefully they will notice that and they won’t like you anymore because you’ve changed. Of course, you don’t need to really change in order to chase them away, just act like that for a little while when you’re in their company.
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This technique might seem a bit harsh, but sometimes it's necessary for your own peace of mind. By gently distancing yourself while showcasing traits they don't find appealing, you're not hurting them directly but are subtly hinting that the attraction might have been misplaced. Perhaps become more invested in topics they have no interest in or show a side of your personality that doesn't align with their ideals. Remember, this is a temporary facade just to get your message across - nobody else needs to know. With luck, they’ll soon realize that the image they had of you doesn't quite fit the reality.
7. Ask for Advice
If you’ve already tried everything in your power and you still can’t get rid of your admirer and you are afraid that he or she turned into a stalker, then it’s time to ask for advice. Talk to your loved ones (especially to your parents), to one of your teachers or to other responsible adults and find out what you can do in order to solve this problem, so you’ll be able to ensure your safety. I’m not trying to scare you, but it’s always best to be prepared for anything than to regret certain things later
Sometimes it’s quite hard to get rid of persistent admirers, but it’s one of those things you have to do whether you like it or not. Make sure you are polite and avoid at all costs any violent confrontation. Have you ever dealt with a persistent admirer or even with a stalker? What can you tell us about that experience? Please share your advice with us in the comments section!
Sources: wikihow.com
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Esther: The girl looks like Adriana Lima
Julia: Well said. The only guy I've ever dated all year was like this. He has done things around me and has said things to me that've made me feel VERY uncomfortable around him. That's why I've stopped taking his phone calls or answering his texts.
Dalal: Very bad experience its ruining my whole life but couldn't avoid him bcuz I really love him and don't want him to get hurt
Luther: Tell them you no play
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