Forever Alone? How to Stay Optimistic when You've Been Single Your Whole Life ...

Learn Vicariously • You're More You • Timing is Everything • Modify That Bucket List • The Ultimate Victor • More ...

By Holly • Apr 29, 2015 MD

Are you sick of being single? Well, stop joking around about how you're forever alone, because the right guy will come along eventually. If you're starting to question whether the Glenn to your Maggie actually exists, here are a few tips on staying optimistic when you've been single you're entire life:

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1. Learn Vicariously

It stinks when all of your friends started dating in middle school, and you're still single years down the line. But think of all the heartbreak they've endured. Meanwhile, you've been learning what type of guys you like and dislike by watching their situations, and by judging your own crushes. Even though it hurts to like someone who doesn't like you back, it's even worse to get dumped by someone you really loved. So you should be happy you've been learning what you want without having to go through the intense heartbreak your friends have gone through.

2. You're More You

It's dangerous to date when you're young, because you still don't know exactly who you are and are far less confident. When you're a kid, it's easy to fall for any guy who looks your way. However, when you're older, you'll realize that you deserve respect, and that you shouldn't settle for any old guy. The bright side to not dating until you're older is that you'll deal with a lot less scumbags.

3. Timing is Everything

Timing is important. If you met the love of your life five years ago, when you acted completely different than you do now, the relationship wouldn't have worked out. There's a time and a place to meet your true love, and it's once you've finally become the person you were meant to be.

4. Modify That Bucket List

If finding a boyfriend is the only thing on your bucket list, it's easy to get frustrated over being single. That's why you need to set goals for yourself that have nothing to do with relationships. Focus on getting your dream job or on purchasing a puppy of your very own.

If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.

5. The Ultimate Victor

One of the great things about being single for such a long time is that you'll be jumping with joy when you finally meet your soulmate. Women who have dated their whole lives won't appreciate a successful relationship as much as you will, which means that you'll ultimately be happier than any of them. In the end, you win!

6. Look around You

Whenever you feel inferior due to your single status, take a look around you. Your aunt is the nicest person you've ever met and she's not married. Your BFF is the cutest girl in school and she's single, too. So stop assuming that you're single due to your lack of lovability. There are plenty of amazing women who are in your same position.

7. It's Not You

The most important thing to remember is that it's not your fault you're still single. You aren't any less beautiful or sweet than your friends who have been dating for years. You just haven't found the right guy yet. It's better to wait years for your prince than to kiss dozens of frogs, anyway.

It doesn't matter how many years it takes you to land your first kiss or date, because experience won't matter when you find the right one for you. Do you hate being single, or have you gotten used to it?

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  • Nicolebruski

    2015-04-30T05:07:18.265Z

    This is me! It's just really hard and trying when u r alone and just want someone to notice u!
  • Sukhy

    2015-04-30T01:53:59.608Z

    Its good way to feel better. Thank you !!
  • Emay

    2015-04-30T10:36:19.213Z

    People always tell me that I'm single bcs of my attitude. But never tell me in details. I've no idea what's wrong but sometimes I enjoy being single while my friends always fight with their bf and break up
  • Bree

    2015-04-30T03:00:47.714Z

    Finally! I love posts about love that I can relate too :) Thank you!
  • Solo

    2021-12-20T20:57:01.344Z

    I’m a 34-year-old virgin. I had my first kiss at 25, and my first relationship at 28. I’ve only had the one boyfriend (on-again, off-again)… Every time I think I’ve found someone, they lose interest. I just found out that my youngest cousin is engaged. I know I should be happy for him, but I’m devastated. I needed to read this today. Thanks.
  • Bree

    2015-04-30T03:01:16.074Z

    Haha *to
  • redstreakedwarrior

    2015-05-01T12:55:19.798Z

    woah, just thank you. This was such an eye opener and mood-lifter. *gives virtual hug
  • Madison

    2015-04-30T02:01:00.335Z

    Just a reminder that someone will find the right guy or gal! Always good to be inclusive :)
  • KQ

    2015-05-01T23:07:28.661Z

    Lovely post
  • Yeela

    2015-05-20T23:01:26.095Z

    So I'm graduating high school and I feel for a long time that I missed the part of being in high school and having a love but it had made me understand that I just have to wait for my moment to come and be myself so thanks.
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