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Here's Why You Shouldn't Feel Sad about Not Having a BF Yet ...

Alison

Do you feel you're being left behind, and that all your girlfriends have a boyfriend? Does it feel like you're the only girl in school or college without a boyfriend? Don't be sad about being single; there's nothing wrong with it. If anyone teases you, ignore them. There's nothing wrong with not having a boyfriend yet, and here's why …

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1. Being Single is Fine - Honestly!

Girls often feel there must be something wrong with them if they haven't had a boyfriend yet. But it really is nothing wrong with you. It just means that you haven't met someone you're interested in yet. The time will come. Being single is absolutely fine, so enjoy it, and don't worry that there's something wrong with you.

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Society often paints a picture that suggests a relationship status defines your worth, but that's far from the truth. Embrace this time of independence to discover who you are, what you want, and where you're headed without compromise. Personal growth and self-discovery are gifts that singleness can afford you with unbound freedom. Your value is inherent, not contingent upon a significant other. So, take this time to invest in friendships, hobbies, and passions. Your happiness is a personal journey, not a destination defined by a relationship.

2. It's Not a Race

But all my friends have a boyfriend! Well, this isn't a race, and you haven't been left behind. They haven't beaten you, and they're not better than you just because they have boyfriends. You don't have to catch up with them, and you don't have anything to prove. You don't have to try to beat anyone to the end, either. Go at your own pace, and don't worry about what anyone else is doing.

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Remember, being single isn't a sign of failure; it's a chance to understand yourself more deeply. It's your journey of self-discovery and personal growth. So instead of fretting over your relationship status, cherish the freedom and opportunities that come with being on your own. Embrace this time as a period for personal development, honing your skills, and exploring your interests without any distractions or compromise. Your worth is not determined by your relationship status but by the rich, fulfilling life you build for yourself.

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3. Wait to Date the Right Guy

Being in a hurry to bag a boyfriend can mean that you end up dating someone you're not really that interested in. That's not fair on him, and isn't right for you. It's worth waiting instead for the right guy, so that you're dating someone you really like. Don't waste your time on the wrong one.

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Remember, true connections can't be forced or rushed. You deserve a relationship that's built on genuine affection and shared interests, not convenience or a fear of being alone. When you allow yourself the time to meet different people and understand your own needs, you increase the likelihood of finding a partner who complements you in meaningful ways. And in the meantime, cherish the freedom to discover more about yourself without compromise. Embrace this period of growth and self-exploration – your future self, and potentially your future significant other, will thank you for it.

4. Having a Boyfriend Isn't All That

I used to feel that there was something wrong with me because I didn't have a boyfriend by the time I was 16. But now I can look back and see that there wasn't anything wrong with me. I can also see that I wasn't missing out on anything other than trying to boast to my peers. Once you've had boyfriends, you realise that it's not all that, and that sometimes they're downright annoying!

5. People Can Lie about Having a Boyfriend

So you think that everyone at school has a boyfriend. But do you know that for a fact? Sometimes girls lie and make out they are dating, because they want people to think they're attractive to boys. Girls can be quite competitive, but may also see their value in their attraction to boys.

6. You Can Please Yourself and do What You Want

Being single is actually a pretty good deal. You don't have to think about someone else, and can just do what you want when you want. You have more free time for hobbies and sports, or whatever you like to do. You can spend time with your friends. Nobody gets jealous of what else you have going on in your life and demands that they be your no. 1 priority.

7. When the Time is Right

Try to relax about not having a boyfriend, and don't be desperate. That's really not attractive, and risks you ending up dating someone who won't treat you well. Guys can smell desperation, believe me - and some of them will happily take advantage of it. It's better to have no boyfriend than one who just wants to use you.

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I'm 32 and I haven't done any of that but at the same time I see people going through so much drama with relationships and I just know I can do bad by myself and I don't have anyone to blame but myself!

I have autism and I’m afraid I won’t find a boyfriend who will accept me and my quirks what should I do?

This is great! I especially love #4 & #6 I always complained about being single and sometimes got teased. I even tried dating guys that I wasn't really that into just to say that I was dating someone. I say don't force it! Now that I'm in a relationship it has been a very big adjustment. You can't just focus on yourself or only do just what you want now that you're in a relationship. It's a balancing act. Enjoy the single life while you can ;)

*he become her number 1

Literally cried over this last night..thanks for the article I needed it!!!

I was 29 before I was really serious about a relieshionship

I used to think about that. When I watched my friends have someone, I knew I wanted that special person. Being single helped you get to know yourself and what you like about yourself. It also is good because you don't know who is Mr. Right. We would get some guys staring at us and we assume they like us. We would be the ones to make the first move since they act shy. Some guys would turn out to be the wrong ones. This article made me realize that it'll happen when the time is right.

Great article. I thought there was something wrong with me because I'm single and In high school and all my friends have boyfriends but I don't if there telling the truth or just pretending

I do have a crush on two people who are extremely close to me and I want one them to date me, only problem is one of these guys are in China.

This was so inspirational. Thank you for the article and i can seriously relate to number 5. I have a friend who is always talking about her "boyfriends" but i don't really know if she is telling the truth. I just listen and go with the flow.