Believe it or not, feeling super nervous around your crush is super common and a lot of the time it's because we don't know that much about them. However, if you follow these 7 tips you can put a stop to that ongoing awkwardness and focus on taking the next step! 😉 😊 💑 ❤️
1. Try Talking Virtually 📱 💻
I was definitely not one to go up and strike a conversation with a crush when I was at school! What I found helpful was to try talking to them online instead. This makes it easy to start up a conversation without having to feel shy or nervous at the idea of doing it in person.
I've talked to the same person virtually (via text and Facebook Messenger) for 4 years and it's made me feel so much more comfortable being myself when I talk to them and it's also been a great way to get to know them really well too.
2. Give Yourself Time 🕒 🕓
For some people (myself included) it can take a long time to feel comfortable enough around someone to open up to them. If you're likely to feel nervous around your crush, just know that this is totally normal - all you need to do is give yourself time to feel comfortable to be yourself around them!
3. Get to Know Them 💬
Maybe part of the reason why you feel nervous is because you don't actually know that much about your crush yet. Feeling nervous is super common when you're at this stage, but if you take the time to get to know them you'll see that there's nothing to be nervous about!
4. Let Them Get to Know You 💬
Once you get talking with them you should start telling them about yourself. This doesn't mean you have to share everything at once, but start with small things like your favourite TV shows or movies, music and then you could get into your passions, hobbies and interests. There will be a time to get into the deeper stuff later, so enjoy it while it's at this early and fun stage!
5. Think of a Way to Break the Ice ❄️
Despite feeling nervous around them, maybe you still feel comfortable going up to them - good for you! Now it's time to consider ways to start a conversation with them! Talk about something that you both have in common like school, mutual friends, that party on Friday night etc.
6. Plan a Group Hang out 👨👨👧👧
Okay so this totally doesn't have to be as cheesy as it sounds, I promise! The key here is to make it seem really casual and laidback. Get a couple of your friends together and plan to hang out, then approach some of his friends and ask if they want to come along too.
Chances are, your crush will come along if his friends are going, and then you get to spend more time with him - even if it is in a group setting!
7. Be Yourself and No One else ✌️
At the end of the day, people are either going to like us and want to get to know us more or they're not, and that's fine! There's no point trying to pretend you're something/someone you're not just for the sake of trying to impress your crush or as a way to get them to notice you.
Even if you feel awkward, know that there's always a better way to go about it than faking it, and that's to be yourself and no one else!