How to Attract the Perfect Guy for You ...

By Holly • Jul 15, 2015

It doesn't matter how many guys like you if none of them click with you. That's why you should try a few tricks to attract the type of men that you actually want to date. Otherwise, you could end up settling for someone that doesn't work well with you. Here are a few ways to attract the right guy for you so you end up in a healthy relationship:

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1. Be Yourself

The best advice is the most obvious advice. If you want to land someone who's perfect for you, then you need to be yourself around every guy you meet. Don't morph yourself into someone you're not to impress a hottie. If you do, then you won't end up with someone who fits you.

2. Visit the Right Places

If you want to find a guy that's right for you, you need to surround yourself with the right group of people. Since you'll find a mixture of people at school and work, your best bet is to go to events like Comic Con if you want to find an anime fan or a concert if you want to find someone with good taste in music. Go wherever you'll find guys with similar interests.

3. Talk to the Right People

It's easy to talk to men you aren't interested in, because nothing is on the line. It's much more stressful to talk to men that you want to date, because you don't want to screw things up. However, you can't psych yourself out. If you want to end up with a guy who's right for you, then you need to be courageous enough to start conversations with the ones you like, not just the ones you have no opinion on.

4. Be Honest about What You Want

Forget all that mumbo jumbo about avoiding the topic of babies and marriage on the first date. While you don't want to talk about the subjects too intensely and scare him off, you should let him know what you want out of your relationship. Be honest with him about what you want so you can make sure you're on the same page from the start.

If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.

5. Know How You Deserve to Be Treated

The more you respect yourself, the better your chances will be of finding a guy that's good for you. If you think highly of yourself, then your standards will be higher, and a guy will actually have to fight to get a date with you. The wrong guys won't put in more effort than they have to to get a girl. So if your standards are high, they'll walk away while the right guy will stay and fight for you.

6. Tell Your Friends What You Want

Your friends in relationships will always try to set you up on dates. It's just the way things work. So if they're going to try to play matchmaker, at least let them know what they should be looking for. That way, they'll find you someone you want to be with instead of someone that's just like all the horrible exes you used to be with.

7. Figure out Who's Right for You

It's hard to find the right guy for you if you have no clue what you're looking for. That's why you should sit down and try to figure out what you're looking for in a man and what qualities you wouldn't want them to have. Once you know what you want, you can keep your eyes open for it.

If you follow these tips, you should end up attracting the right type of guy for you. Have you already found the perfect partner or are you still looking?

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  • peony

    2015-07-15T14:44:16.749Z

    or just be open to an adventure. Sometimes the men we feel sure out types is just an illusion and there is nothing wrong with having a type bug open can also be a great eye opener. Try it.
  • Alexis

    2015-07-15T17:00:29.981Z

    AMENNNNNN FRANCESCA!!!
  • Jennifer

    2015-07-15T19:52:13.796Z

    Very well put Francesca...# 6 is hilarious 😂
  • Francesca

    2015-07-15T16:20:03.836Z

    Ladies, please do not go for every guy that shows interest in you. That same guy may show interest in other girls as well, but he's picking you as one as an option. Ladies, we are not an option, we are choice. A real man has his eyes on one woman, a boy picks up and drop a girl at his own convenience. A man who goes after your heart must win it, after he does he must show you that he loves you every single day. You're worth so much more than what you think! People thoughts on you doesn't matter, just know that you must treat yourself right before any man does.
  • Lily

    2015-07-16T00:56:05.287Z

    Oh my gosh, #3 made me laugh so hard I cried 😂
  • DMT

    2015-07-16T01:20:54.551Z

    Excellent post, thanks :-)
  • Serene

    2015-07-15T22:39:53.186Z

    Yay, yay, YAY, Francesca!!! 👍
  • JJsummer

    2015-07-17T14:11:23.677Z

    Amazing post thanks for the great advice
  • Sapna

    2015-07-15T15:35:18.101Z

    End of the day it's destiny whom u meet n want in ur life
  • Faiii

    2015-07-15T16:23:19.042Z

    @Francesca Rose that is absolutely true. I have guy friends and male family that do this, sadly
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