It doesn't matter how many guys like you if none of them click with you. That's why you should try a few tricks to attract the type of men that you actually want to date. Otherwise, you could end up settling for someone that doesn't work well with you. Here are a few ways to attract the right guy for you so you end up in a healthy relationship:
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1. Be Yourself
The best advice is the most obvious advice. If you want to land someone who's perfect for you, then you need to be yourself around every guy you meet. Don't morph yourself into someone you're not to impress a hottie. If you do, then you won't end up with someone who fits you.
2. Visit the Right Places
If you want to find a guy that's right for you, you need to surround yourself with the right group of people. Since you'll find a mixture of people at school and work, your best bet is to go to events like Comic Con if you want to find an anime fan or a concert if you want to find someone with good taste in music. Go wherever you'll find guys with similar interests.
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3. Talk to the Right People
It's easy to talk to men you aren't interested in, because nothing is on the line. It's much more stressful to talk to men that you want to date, because you don't want to screw things up. However, you can't psych yourself out. If you want to end up with a guy who's right for you, then you need to be courageous enough to start conversations with the ones you like, not just the ones you have no opinion on.
4. Be Honest about What You Want
Forget all that mumbo jumbo about avoiding the topic of babies and marriage on the first date. While you don't want to talk about the subjects too intensely and scare him off, you should let him know what you want out of your relationship. Be honest with him about what you want so you can make sure you're on the same page from the start.
5. Know How You Deserve to Be Treated
The more you respect yourself, the better your chances will be of finding a guy that's good for you. If you think highly of yourself, then your standards will be higher, and a guy will actually have to fight to get a date with you. The wrong guys won't put in more effort than they have to to get a girl. So if your standards are high, they'll walk away while the right guy will stay and fight for you.
6. Tell Your Friends What You Want
Your friends in relationships will always try to set you up on dates. It's just the way things work. So if they're going to try to play matchmaker, at least let them know what they should be looking for. That way, they'll find you someone you want to be with instead of someone that's just like all the horrible exes you used to be with.
7. Figure out Who's Right for You
It's hard to find the right guy for you if you have no clue what you're looking for. That's why you should sit down and try to figure out what you're looking for in a man and what qualities you wouldn't want them to have. Once you know what you want, you can keep your eyes open for it.
If you follow these tips, you should end up attracting the right type of guy for you. Have you already found the perfect partner or are you still looking?
Comments
M3g: You don't have to like everything he likes. Opposites attract & sometimes opposing views keep things fresh.
Alexis: AMENNNNNN FRANCESCA!!!
DMT: Excellent post, thanks :-)
Faiii: @Francesca Rose that is absolutely true. I have guy friends and male family that do this, sadly
peony: or just be open to an adventure. Sometimes the men we feel sure out types is just an illusion and there is nothing wrong with having a type bug open can also be a great eye opener. Try it.
JJsummer: Amazing post thanks for the great advice
Lily: Oh my gosh, #3 made me laugh so hard I cried 😂
Serene: Yay, yay, YAY, Francesca!!! 👍
Sapna: End of the day it's destiny whom u meet n want in ur life
Francesca: Ladies, please do not go for every guy that shows interest in you. That same guy may show interest in other girls as well, but he's picking you as one as an option. Ladies, we are not an option, we are choice. A real man has his eyes on one woman, a boy picks up and drop a girl at his own convenience. A man who goes after your heart must win it, after he does he must show you that he loves you every single day. You're worth so much more than what you think! People thoughts on you doesn't matter, just know that you must treat yourself right before any man does.
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