How many times have you tried to get your best friend to break up with some guy who is treating them like crap? You also need to know how to know when to break your own heart.
Love is a strange thing. It almost turns into a sickness when it is being abused. We have all seen it. Close friends and family, pleading with their loved one to break up with some a-hole. Believe me, it is not just the women, it happens to men also.
No matter how obvious the abuse and disrespect is, they won’t leave. That person could have all the evidence of cheating, mental abuse, physical abuse and even financial abuse, but they just can’t find the strength to leave. At this point, love becomes a sickness. The most powerful emotion on Earth has become someone’s worst nightmare.
Heartbreak is serious. According to the American Heart Association, “women are more likely than men to experience the sudden, intense chest pain — the reaction to a surge of stress hormones — that can be caused by an emotionally stressful event. It could be the death of a loved one or even a divorce, breakup or physical separation, betrayal or romantic rejection.”
Did you know there is an official name for heartbreak syndrome? It’s called “stress-induced cardiomyopathy" or "takotsubo cardiomyopathy,” according to the AHA. Try and say that in one heartbeat!
Let’s focus on the breakup, betrayal and romantic rejection side of things. Warning: consult your doctor and any loved ones before conducting any heartbreak activities! This is no joke, you will need all the help and support you can get when it comes to learning how to know when to break your own heart.
So, what are the brokenhearted to do when all the red flags are flapping in the wind and in the mouths of those who really care for you?
There is hope in pragmatism for this person sick with love. They must break their own heart. I know it is easier said than done, but that is the key. Pragmatism simply means making a hard decision while addressing the blatant reality of a situation, regardless of emotions. Can you break your own heart?
Sometimes love is like being in chains. It is not meant to be like that. You have to break your own heart. You cannot wait for the abuser to do it for you. He or she has no incentive, desire or interest in doing it for you. Stop trying to figure out why they don’t love you, or why they are treating you like this. It is a waste of time.
You may be caught up in a double whammy meaning not only are you in love, but the sex has you gasping for breath, it is so good. That is a problem. The solution is finding yourself a nice toy on the internet! Don’t laugh or scoff at me! How many times have you gotten all worked up sexually and slept with someone you knew you would regret? Then the crazy part is, right after you finish, you return to your right state of mind! The key is, get rid of the urge and sleep peacefully. The toy won’t cheat on you, yell at you, disrespect you or anything else! It just needs a few batteries!
Seriously, the real issue is, do you have enough in you to break your own heart? It is painful at first, but nothing as painful as losing precious years to abuse and mistreatment. There will be withdrawals. Withdrawal is not just the pain of getting over an addiction. You may be tempted to call or text. He or she will keep calling and tempting you through apologies. Loneliness will rear its ugly head. Stand your ground!
When you do break your own heart, don’t just lay there listening to another sad love song. The new danger is that now there is a void. Fill it with friends and family and kids if you have them. Find things to do. Start a business, go back to school, join an organization, work it out in the gym but don’t just sit there checking your phone! One cute emoji can ruin your life!
Don’t just break your own heart, smash it for your own good. Meaning, break up with that fool before he makes a fool of you! I know it is easier said than done, but it can be done if you really love yourself and want to be free. Nobody deserves to be treated like a dog, especially by a dog! Think about what advice you would give your best friend who is in a similar situation, and make it your own!
When you are finally free, you will be like "what the hell was wrong with me! What was I thinking? How could I be so stupid?" You weren’t stupid, you were just in love, and love can be a dangerous thing. That is, when it is not respected.