Going through a breakup doesn't mean your feelings just disappear along with all the outward trappings of your relationship. Love isn't a faucet – you can't turn it on or off at will. It doesn't matter who broke up with whom, either, and even the reason for the breakup doesn't always matter – sometimes you want your ex to chase you. It may be because you aren't ready to give up on the relationship, because you just can't let go, or because you want your ex to want you even if you don't want him or her anymore. Whatever the case, here's how to get your ex to chase you after a breakup.
1. Contact? Nope! You Better Not Reach out 📞
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I know, this probably seems like the exact opposite of what you should do, right? If you're trying to make him chase you, don't you need to stay in touch? No, no way, absolutely not! You have to make yourself scarce, you have to act like you don't want to talk to your ex at all. Resist the urge to reach out at all costs!
2. Become a Bit Unavailable to Him if He Does Reach out 🙅
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Definitely don't make yourself seem too available. It's too easy to take that for granted – you don't want your ex thinking that you just spend all your time waiting around, hoping to hear from him, do you? You don't have to be completely color or distant, and you don't have to turn down every invitation to talk or get together, but absolutely make yourself a little unavailable. Use your judgment!
3. Build up Your Social Life Quite a Bit 👱👱👱
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You really can't sit around waiting to hear from your ex, though. After all, if you want him to chase you, then you kind of have to be going somewhere, right? Reinvigorate your social life! Hang out with friends, get drinks after work, go dancing, meet new people – and don't hide it, either! Besides, the distraction of a full, busy social life might make you decide you actually don't want him anymore.
4. Wait a While to Text Him Back 📱
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Don't feel the need to text back right away every time he messages you. This also serves to help make you seem unavailable. Odds are your ex will wonder what's taking you so long, what kept you so busy that you couldn't text back, and that's exactly what you want!
5. Once He Does Reach out? Snap Him Something Sexy and Cute 📷
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Don't do it all the time – can't have your ex getting used to it, right? The idea is to send a tempting, teasing pic that's kind of casually flirtatious – nothing too serious in either direction, basically. You definitely want him thinking about you, though, and this is a foolproof way to make that happen!
6. Passive Aggressive Sharing via Facebook if You Are Friends 💻
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It sounds immature, I know, but it's a surefire tactic. You don't want to be too obvious, you don't want to do it too often, and you don't want to be annoying about it, but sharing photos and updates about your active social life isn't exactly a bad thing. It's especially effective if you have mutual friends.
7. Be Yourself, He'll Miss You 👸
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Who wouldn't? You're amazing and beautiful and wonderful – so you need to remember one thing. If it turns out your ex doesn't miss you and doesn't appreciate who you are, maybe you should find someone more deserving – someone who doesn't need to chase you, someone who doesn't make you want to run.
Have you ever gotten an ex to chase you and come back to you? Were you happy the second time around?
Frequently Asked Questions
- How can I make him miss me after a breakup?
- Give him space to realize your value and focus on improving yourself to naturally spark his interest.
- Is it okay to contact him first after a breakup?
- It's best to wait a bit before reaching out, allowing emotions to settle and showing confidence.
- What changes should I make to get him chasing me again?
- Work on your personal growth, pursue your passions, and stay confident to attract his attention.
- Should I act indifferent to make him chase me?
- Showing confidence without being cold is key; genuine self-assurance is more attractive than playing games.
- How important is my social life post-breakup?
- Very important! Staying active socially shows you’re thriving and can make him curious about your new life.
- Can I use social media to make him chase me?
- Yes, sharing positive and happy moments subtly can pique his interest without coming off as needy.
- How long should I wait before trying to reconnect?
- Usually, giving at least a few weeks helps both of you heal and create a healthy starting point.
- Does flirting with other people help him chase me?
- Flirting can boost your confidence but focus on genuine interactions rather than just making him jealous.
- What if he doesn't chase me after I try?
- Sometimes, it's best to accept his choice and focus on your own happiness and growth instead.
- How do I keep my dignity while trying to make him chase me?
- Set boundaries, stay true to yourself, and avoid desperate behaviors to maintain respect and self-worth.