Wondering how to move on from a failed relationship? It can be difficult and confusing figuring out how to move on when you still think about your ex. Letting go can be very painful when you were so sure that you would be together forever. After all, you put a lot of blood, sweat, and tears into this relationship. But staying stuck in the past will keep you from moving forward. But it is possible to let go of a past relationship, move on, and have a new beginning. Here's how to move on from a failed relationship.
1 Think about Your Role in the Relationship
Thinking about what kind of partner you were in the relationship can help you grow. It can also keep you from repeating the same mistakes. Were you too demanding? Too passive? Did you lose yourself in the relationship? Think about what caused your behavior in the last relationship. This will help you to figure out what you want in your next relationship. But don’t over analyze to the point where you beat yourself up over what happened. Some serious thinking is a great answer for how to move on from a failed relationship.
2 Accept the Fact That It’s over
This is a must in order to move on. You can’t embrace the new if you are still focused on the old. The relationship is over. There is nothing that can be done to fix it. It’s easy to think that,” maybe if I would have done this or that we would still be together”. What’s done is done. Leave the past right where it belongs - in the past. Acceptance will bring much needed closure. Once you have closure, you can truly embrace the new.
3 Don’t Stalk Your Ex
Speaking from personal experience, getting over a relationship is much easier when there is no stalking involved. It never made sense to me to stalk an ex. All it will do is cause you more hurt and pain. No matter how curious you are about what he is doing just don’t look him up. Don’t drive by his house, don’t look up his social media profiles, and don’t make excuses to bump into him. Why would you want to see pictures of him with someone else? You will have a lot more peace not knowing anything about his life.
4 Don’t Try to Be Just Friends
This is not helpful in letting go of the relationship. What would you do if your ex asked you for dating advice? Would you be okay seeing him with someone new? It is impossible to be “just friends” with someone you have feelings for. Feelings you have for someone don’t just disappear overnight. You need time to get over those feelings. That won’t happen being “just friends”. Trying to be “just friends” proves that you aren’t ready to let go. Open yourself up to meeting new people, making new friends, and a new relationship.
5 Love Your Life
Fall in love with your life and yourself again. This was something I had to do after my six-year relationship ended. Sometimes we give so much of ourselves to the relationship that we put our own life last. I was guilty of doing that. It’s time to do all the things you have always wanted to do but couldn’t before. Now is the time to finally put yourself first. Set new goals, and dreams for your life. Start the journey of loving yourself. Be who you always wanted to be. Do what you always wanted to do.
Remember that any sadness, loneliness, or hurt you may be feeling is only temporary. Don’t go out there and rush into another relationship to quickly get over your ex. Don’t get to the point where you feel that you need another relationship. It’s okay to want another relationship when you are ready. Don’t think that you will never love again. You will love again, and be happy again.