Relationships are hard work, but what's even harder than that is picking yourself up when they end-especially if it's sudden! You just ended a relationship and now you also have to figure out how to recover from a breakup. You've got your work cut out for you, but it can be done. If you want to learn how to fight through the pain and become stronger, than look no further than what you'll find here. I've been there and it hurts like hell! But I can tell you what I did in order to get to where I am today. Here's how to recover from a breakup.
1. I Reflected on the "marriage" and Decided That I Didn't Want It
I gave back my rings because they meant nothing and I left. That's the first step to learning how to recover from a breakup.
2. My Feelings Were Neither Right nor Wrong
They just were and I lived with EVERY. SINGLE. ONE.
3. I Did My Best to Take Care of Myself when I Was Able
Infidelity is crippling. It is the WORST pain I have ever experienced.
4. I Journaled like a Mad WoMan
This can help you work through your emotions.
5. I Cried a LOT
Crying is a great release for your pent up anger, sadness and denial.
6. I Took Time for Myself by Going to Counseling
You'd be amazed at how talking over the breakup with a neutral party can help.
7. I Never Made Threats or Gave Ultimatums That I Didn't Follow through with
This helped me remain the bigger person.
8. I Gave Myself a Break
I didn't need to speak to my husband. He abandoned us. We needed nothing from him. That alone actually made a world of difference. I despised getting his texts "inquiring" about a baby he left behind. When I didn't hear from him, I was ok.
9. I Never Took the Blame for What He Did
It wasn't my burden to carry, but it didn't hurt any less.
10. I Refused to Bottle Things up inside
I know myself and I would have done something that would have destroyed me. I allowed myself to feel EVERYTHING. I let it out during my workouts. I am in the best shape of my life because of that. Ironic, isn’t it?
11. The Other Woman Wasn't an Issue, until She Was
I didn't care about her. I rarely asked about her. My beef was with my husband. She chose to insert herself into my life, six restraining orders later and we are still going at it. As far as I'm concerned, she can have him, he means nothing to me.
12. The Healing Process Has Begun and I Am Coping
With time, you'll start to feel better and will return to your life.
13. I Know "WHY"
But it doesn't even matter. He doesn't matter unless it concerns our child.
14. I Feel down Often and That's Ok
It's to be expected. No need to rush.
15. I'm in Charge of the Choices I Make and Take Responsibility for Those Choices
And that helps me get through each day in a healthy way.
16. By Surviving, I Know I Will Amass Strength and Coping Strategies
Maybe even beyond what I’d ever expected of myself or knew I was capable of.