When it comes to spicing things up in the bedroom and doing something that might be out of your usual comfort zone, dirty talk is always something that comes to mind. It isn’t so far out there that you can’t bring yourself to even try it, but it is also more wild than you might be used to, and therefore you have to try to settle your embarrassment before really getting into it! If you have never tried dirty talk before, then it can definitely be a struggle to work up the confidence and get into a rhythm, but once you do, it’s amazing! Here is how to talk dirty without getting embarrassed.
One simple step to take towards dirty talk is to say your partner’s name alongside the usual moans and heavy breaths that come out of you during sex. By addressing them directly, you are linking the noises you are making to the actions that they are performing, and this will really get them even more hot and heavy than they already are. Once you get used to saying their name like that, more stuff can easily follow.
You can have a go at telling them how what they are doing to you feels. Describe the kind of pleasure that you are experiencing, tell them specifically which parts you are enjoying the most. This kind of verbal communication isn’t necessarily ‘dirty’, but it’s a good way to start the ball rolling and get you comfortable with talking during sex in general.
Get into bed together, get under the covers and take turns telling each other what your sexiest fantasies are. This doesn’t have to feel that awkward because you aren’t actually asking your partner to do anything. You are just telling a story that you think is super sexy, and if something sparks a fire and comes from it, then even better!
We’ve all seen love scenes in movies and the odd porn clip here and there. You know the kinds of generic phrases that everyone uses. Just have a go seeing how they feel coming out of your mouth. Because they are so generic, you can sort of pretend that you are being someone else!
Trying out those steamy movie lines might initially make you giggle more than feel sultry, but there's a trick to it. Start off by whispering, which can naturally add a layer of intimacy. If you're still feeling shy, practice alone or with a close friend for a honest feedback. Remember, it's all about confidence—the more you own it, the sexier you'll sound. Embrace the cliche and see how it spices things up. Just make sure to keep it within your comfort zone—no phrase is sexy if it makes you cringe!
And speaking of being someone else! Roleplay is a great way to get out of your own head and lose your inhibitions under the guise of playing a character! When you are being someone else, you can say what you want!