Girl's Guide πŸ“˜ on How to Train ✏️ Your Boyfriend πŸ‘« ...

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Want to learn how to train your boyfriend? You love him, he loves you, but let's be real, no one is perfect. Maybe you hate it when he leaves the toilet seat up. Maybe you hate it when he blasts country music while driving. Heck, maybe you just want him to brush his teeth every morning! Those small irritating details might seem like they're stuck forever, and you probably feel like you'll have to deal with them the entire length of the relationship. Which makes sense! Old habits die hard, right? But I'm here to tell you that is wrong.

Behaviorism is a branch of Psychology developed by B.F. Skinner that focuses on the behavior of organisms, rather than on their thoughts. It is a kind of psychology, in other words, that does not look into the "inner workings" of behavior, but only on what a living thing does and what makes it do it. For example, if a person crossed the road in front of an oncoming car, a typical psychologist might ask "what were they thinking"? Meanwhile, if the same person crossed the road in front of an oncoming car, a behaviorist might ask "what reward were they seeking"? The two questions might seem similar at first glance, but they are not. While the first psychologist is wondering what abstract thoughts might be passing through the mind of the walker (something that we can never actually know), the behaviorist is looking for a literal, physical reason that the person chose to put himself in danger (something that through observation we CAN know).

This branch of Psychology is not extremely popular because of this focus on the physical rather than the mental. However, it did lead to the development of something us ladies will find very, VERY, useful - a way to train your boyfriend, otherwise known as Operant Conditioning! So, here's how to train your boyfriend.

1. But What is Operant Conditioning?

Operant Conditioning isn't very hard to grasp once you get the basics of it. It's the idea that once an organism (let's call him Joe) does an action (let's call it brushing his teeth), one of three things can happen. He can be positively or negatively reinforced (he can get some sort of reward for his teeth brushing, he can be positively or negatively punished (he can get some sort of punishment for his teeth brushing), or he can be ignored. If he is rewarded, the behavior will increase. If he is punished, the behavior will decrease. If he is ignored, nothing will happen (though the more times it is ignored, the more the behavior will steadily go away).

Pretty simple, right? Now punishing behaviors is never the right way to go about things, especially with your boyfriend. Punishments strain the relationship and can cause him to link you to things you do NOT want to be linked to. How long do you think your relationship will last if his image of you is as someone who takes away his gaming systems or smacks his hand when he does something you don't approve of? Not long. With that being said, in order to train your boyfriend effectively, I'm going to have you focus instead on the reinforcements, which is the best answer for how to train your boyfriend.

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