When you separate from your partner, there's a common desire to try to "win" the breakup. Even after you and your ex are no longer together, the urge to impress him doesn't go away. In fact, it gets stronger. After all, if you "win" the breakup, then your ex will feel like a fool for letting you get away. Love shouldn't be a competition, but if you have your heart set on "winning" the breakup, then here are a few ways you can do so:
It's normal to miss your ex, but you should refrain from drunk texting him. If you send him sloppy messages about how you wish things would've worked out, then he could lose respect for you. One drunk text could ruin your chances of "winning" the breakup, so stay sober (or at least keep your phone far away) if you want to keep your dignity.
Maybe your day at the beach with your friends is the only time you've been out of the house all month, but he doesn't need to know that. If you post pictures of yourself smiling in your bathing suit, then he'll assume you've been having the time of your life without him.
Even if your ex did something low like cheat on you, you shouldn't stoop to his level. You need to act maturely if you want to "win" the breakup. That means you shouldn't spread rumors about him. No one but your close friends need to know the details of your split, so take the high road by keeping your comments to yourself.
When you bump into your ex, you want his jaw to drop. The best way to do that is by buying new clothes, getting a haircut, or getting in shape. Do whatever you can to make him wonder why he broke up with you in the first place.
If you can't impress him with your new look, then you should impress him with your intelligence. Take up a new hobby, like learning how to play the guitar, or try hard to get a promotion at work. Once you succeed, make sure to tell him all about your accomplishments when you run into him. Your success will make him question all of his life decisions.
Don't key your ex's car or burn the clothing he left at your house. Don't stalk him on social media, either. You might think that those things are helping you get closure, but they're only going to make you feel worse about yourself.
The ultimate key to "winning" the breakup is to be happy with your life. Even if you never see him again, and he never sees what an amazing life you've led, at least you know how you feel. He might not know that you've "won" the breakup, but you'll know it, and that's all that matters.
At the end of the day, it's important for both you and your ex to be happier apart than you were together. That way, you'll know that the breakup was the right thing to do. Do you feel like you've "won" your latest breakup?