If you feel like you’re beginning to have certain doubts lately regarding your relationship because you think you might have lost all the passion there once was, I will provide you with a few important relationship questions to ask yourself, questions that might influence the way you perceive your relationship and also its course. I simply love this beautiful quote by William S. Burroughs, who said that “Your mind will answer most questions if you learn to relax and wait for the answer.” There are times in every relationship when things are not as perfect as they once were, but the best thing you can do is to find out the answers to all your questions, so you know that you’ve made the best decision, both for you and also for your partner. So here are a few very important relationship questions to ask yourself that might change your relationship:
1. What do I Love about My Partner?
In my opinion, this is definitely one of the most important relationship questions to ask yourself if you are uncertain about the future of your relationship. Just think of all the things you love about your significant other. You could even write them down on a little piece of paper, so you will have a clearer image on things. Sometimes we might forget what’s really important and we tend to get lost in all the details of our daily tasks. So, if you want to know what will happen with your relationship, try to answer this question first and you will see things more clearly afterwards.
2. How Did My Relationship Start?
Was it love at first sight or were the two of you friends for a long time before getting romantically involved with each other? How did your relationship start? Can you still remember? Do you remember what you saw first in your partner? What was so wonderful about them that made you fall in love at that time?
3. Do I Still Feel the Same Way about My Partner?
Do you still feel the same about your partner, just like you did at the beginning of your relationship? If your love has changed, in what way has this happened? Has your love transformed? Did it grow stronger over time or did it begin to fade away? This is one of the toughest questions to ask yourself but you must honestly answer it, so you know where your relationship is headed and what can you do about it.
4. Am I Happy with the Intimacy I Share with My Partner?
Intimacy is one of the most important attributes of a happy marriage or relationship. Are you happy with the intimacy you and your partner share? Do you think you need to work more on this aspect of your love life? What can you do in order to improve the intimacy in your relationship? Do you think your romantic life would benefit if you manage to increase the intimacy in your relationship?
5. How Often do We Laugh Together?
Think about how often you two share a couple of good laughs together or how much fun are you are having every day in order to find out if certain things are missing lately from your relationship. Do you spend enough time with each other or are you too tired to even speak to each other when you two get home every night? Are you still enjoying each other’s company or have you been fighting so much lately that you don’t even speak to each other anymore without saying something mean?
6. When Was the Last Time I Had a Dream about My Partner?
Do you often dream about your partner? When was the last time you dreamed about your significant other and what was that dream about? You do know that you can find a lot of the answers to your questions if you simply pay attention to your dreams more, since there are a lot of things your unconscious mind tells you this way.
7. How Often do I Think about My Other Half?
Do you think much about your other half? How often do you do it? Did it ever happen to you to completely forget about your partner or that you are in a relationship (especially when you meet someone new that catches your eye)? Do you ever miss your partner, even if you usually stay apart only for a little while?
Just like Terez Williamson, blogger at tinybuddha.com, said, “The beauty of constant questioning is that it is often the fastest path to enlightenment. It leads you to search for answers. It encourages you to be more proactive in your life.” What other questions should one ask themselves to figure out what’s happening with their relationship? Please share your thoughts with us in the comments section!