Most relationships are a tricky business especially since your motivations, your goals and your expectations should match the ones of your partner. If this doesn’t happen, then things might get tough and you’ll need to find ways to make your relationship work so you can be happy together. But before starting a relationship, you should try to accomplish certain things in your life so you’ll be able to be a good partner. Usually, people who are happy in their relationships, spend more energy working on their self-development instead of only appearing a certain way so they can attract love. Here are 7 important things you need to do before starting your next relationship that you should consider:
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1. Become Who You Want to Be
One of the most important things you need to do before starting a new relationship is becoming the person that you want to be. Just make a list of all the personality traits that you would like to have and then work to cultivate them. As an adult, are you the person you wanted to be when you were a child?
2. Do Things That Make You Happy
Before starting your next relationship, try to create an amazing life and do the things that make you happy or the ones that get you excited for each new day. Have fun and share those pleasant activities with the people around you. Find things that you are passionate about and do them more often.
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3. Understand Yourself
Try to understand yourself both sexually and emotionally before starting a new romantic relationship. Others won’t be able to make you happy if you don’t know what you need or what you want to be happy. Also, it's not other people’s job or responsibility to make you happy; this is one of the things that you need to do on your own. Reflect on your feelings and observe and label your emotional reactions.
4. Leave the past in the past
Don’t dwell on your past and don’t let it affect your future decisions! A lot of people have things that they would rather forget but not all of them have baggage. Memories only become baggage when you refuse to move on. Let go of those things that upset you in the past and focus on the present.
5. Get Organized
By being more organized you will feel more confident and more attractive. So, start cleaning your house, your car or even your Facebook friends list. Just do things that make you happy and enthusiastic and try to have fun no matter what you do.
6. Learn to Accept Others
Learn to accept others as they are with all their qualities and their flaws. We all make mistakes since we are all human and none of us is perfect after all. Just keep in mind that others don’t exist just to satisfy your expectations of them. Accept others for who they are and embrace their flaws.
7. Separate Psychologically from Your Parents
Try not to allow your parents to meet all your emotional needs. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t spend time with them or that you shouldn’t enjoy their company, just try to become more comfortable making your own decisions. When you start a new romantic relationship, if you believe that your partner should take care of you just like your parents did, then you can really sabotage your relationship or your happiness.
Before starting a new romantic relationship, try to believe what people say and show about themselves, avoid “sextimacy” and put yourself in new situations. Do you know any other things that someone should do before starting a new relationship? Please share your thoughts with us in the comments section!
Sources:
lifehack.org
psychologytoday.com
Comments
manpreet: So truee
Katiesellu: So true!!
Abby: Good advice
Raealla: Great read! Thank you.
Sammi: I really needed this, I just broke up with my boyfriend because it wasn't exactly working out I mean I wasn't really myself
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