7 Inexcusable Reasons for Staying in an Unhealthy Relationship ...

Have you ever stayed in a relationship that you knew wasn’t right? We’ve all been there. Although some relationships are undoubtedly worth fighting for, others might have simply run their course, or become unhealthy for one or both people involved. That doesn’t necessarily make it easy to leave, though. If you find yourself hanging around for any of these reasons, make plans to leave, now.

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They Love You

Okay, so everyone likes to be loved, but that’s not a reason to stay. You might wonder if anyone else will ever love you like they do, as much as they do, or if you’re walking away from the only person who will ever adore you. Love isn’t enough, sometimes. If the relationship isn’t working in general, you have to trust that there’s someone else that will love you – and it’ll be mutual – and get the confidence to leave.

You Can’t Hurt Them

Come on. You run an even greater risk of hurting them if they find out that you’ve stayed together simply because you didn’t want to be the bad guy. Be honest and treat them with respect. They might be hurt, but at least they’ll know where they stand.

Being Single Sucks

Don’t stay in a bad relationship because you don’t want to be single. Don’t stay in any relationship just because you want to be in a relationship. Think about how you’d feel if someone was only with you because they didn’t want to be on their own, and then be the bigger person and break up. Not only are you doing the right thing for your partner, but you’ll also teach yourself that being single is nothing to be afraid of.

You Are One of “Those Couples”

Everyone might think that you are perfect together, or you look adorable, or you’re unbreakable. If you don’t agree, though, that’s all that matters. Don’t stay together because other people might be upset or shocked. Your happiness is important, and nobody was ever made happy because their relationship looked good. It needs to feel good, too.

Their Family Rocks

If you’ve been together a while, you’re probably quite close to each other’s families. His mum could know you better than anyone, his brother might be perfect for chatting about Game of Thrones with, or he might have the sisters you never had. You are not dating his family, though. Don’t stay together for other people.

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Meaning is not what you start with but what you end up with.

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You Have Mutual Friends

Sometimes it might feel like you’ll never be able to make a clean break because you’ve got mutual friends or you can’t imagine not running into each other all the time. That’s not a great reason, though. Friends will get over the break up, and you can always make new friends, too. Bad relationships cannot be saved by shared friends.

You Promised

When you’re happy, it’s easy to promise that you’ll love someone forever and that you’ll never break up. The butterflies wear off, you stop feeling so happy, and you have every right to break up if you need to. Don’t stay together because you don’t want to break a promise. Being honest now might break the promise, but at least you won’t break hearts later down the line.

There will always be reasons not to make difficult decisions, and breaking up with someone will always be difficult. That doesn’t mean that you should stay together, though. Take a deep breath and end things. Be respectful and polite and honest, and then walk away with your head held high. Something better is on its way. Got any tips for ending hard relationships? I’d love to hear them.

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@Ragnhildur gosh what kind of a man will that be? A cold hearted ignoramus or a nincompoop? Kick him to the kerb then. There are a lot of men out there who will not belittle a woman they love in any way shape or form .

@Bella, run. Run fast. Don't marry this man.

Hmm. Very true. The amount of reasons people will stay in a bad relationship

I think staying for the kids is also inexcusable

It's really difficult choosing whether to stay in an unhappy marriage or leave and build your life again. Staying because of the children is not a good enough idea as they will grow up in an unhappy atmosphere. Have the courage to split up and the kids then hopefully grow up in two happy households with both parents giving them loving attention.

@Bella u don't have to get married if u r not ready, take some time to think about the consequences u may suffer if u find out he cheated on u recently. There is just some thing about some boys they have a habit of cheating it is true I know. But u can't be positive that he cheated on u. The past is the past u got to let it go. My boyfriend cheated on me once and he cried so much and asked me to forgive him I could see that he was truly sorry so I forgave him. All u have to do is ask him if he is ready to commit to ur relationship with him. Ask him if he is ready becuz this is a once in a lifetime thing. So be careful and don't worry everything will be alright.

What if everything is good between a couple but the man makes fun of you when you show your skills that has to do with "your gift" Or when you cry the man laughs???

@peony blue You must have misunderstood me my skills is singing and my gift is my voice. I am in a very good shape- I am aware of that and he compliments on that all the time. You misunderstood me big time. He just thinks my singing is a waste of time .... And when I cry he feels weird and laughs...

Here is #8 :- Staying together because it is convenient for both sides. Everyone thinking that you are a really good couple but in reality one is too afraid to speak out & the other has gotten in over his/her head with duties with work & volunteer work. He/she gets up at 4:30 am Monday to Thursday and doesn't get back home until somewhere between 9 - 10:30 pm, Friday up at 4:30 am & gets back home somewhere between 12 - 1:30 pm, stays long enough to get a bite to eat & maybe a brief nap, then gone by 3 pm, back home somewhere between 10:30 pm - 1:30 to 2 am. Weekends busy with volunteer work again. Both sides unwilling and/or unable to talk things out to either work any problems out or go their separate ways.

Listen up girls I'm getting married in 6 weeks to a man I truly love !! I recently found out he cheated on me in the beginning of our relationship !! I read every text and cried so hard thinking Why??? I put this in the past and am moving forward!! Now ,I found out he has two Google phone numbers!! Disconnected our house phone because he does not want to deal with my psycho blow ups when I see the Google number come up on the caller ID!! Gets better now he has switched one of the Google numbers as our house number and has placed this needs under a different name in his contacts !! He says he is not cheating and has no clue why he has these Google numbers!! Heart broken as I look at that wedding dress and all I do is cry!!!

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