Flirting, especially for a lesbian, can be really difficult to learn, but that's why there are lesbian flirting tips to help! When I was looking for my girlfriend, I used tons of lesbian flirting tips to really tell me how to pick up a girl. Flirting with the same sex as can be awkward in the beginning and it can also be different if you don't know how to do it. Girls don't like lines pulled on them, instead, it's all about the body language.
1. Eye Contact
There are so many different lesbian flirting tips out there, it's hard to find out which is the top one. Eye contact makes it though. You can't get anywhere unless you first make that connection. Eye contact is so important no matter who you are flirting with, but most of the time, girls will respond better when you meet their eyes!
2. Light Touching
Who doesn't like to be touched? I know that I do! Well, when you are flirting with a girl, giving off some light and subtle touching is a surefire way to get her to notice you. Just a brush against her arm or even a little twirl of her hair can mean everything.
3. Lots of Compliments
You're a girl, she's a girl, what girl doesn't like compliments? Honestly, if someone tells you that you are beautiful or even pulls a little line on you, it's all flattering isn't it? Try a few compliments out and see how far it gets you!
4. Have a Sense of Humor
Just like flirting with a guy, a girl likes another girl that has a sense of humor. Truthfully, I couldn't be with my partner if she couldn't take my witty charm or my sarcasm. Lighten up and have a sense of humor, girls!
5. Have a Positive Attitude
That attitude that you put on is by far one of the biggest obstacles. You've got to be positive. You've got to make sure that you know that you are going to win this and that the girl is going to love you. Rejection can't be anywhere in your mind. Seriously, girls, it matters!
6. Be Honest & Open
Remember how you like honesty and open doors? Well, all girls do, so when you are hitting on a girl, don't make up a bunch of stories, instead, just be yourself and be honest. You are hitting on a girl remember, you don't have to lie about anything!
Yes, you are hitting on a girl, yes she can read you, yes she knows you are nervous – so relax! Just because you are hitting on a girl that probably knows exactly how nervous you are, make sure that you relax. When you have someone hitting on you, can you tell if they are relaxed or not?
8. Watch Her Body Language
Oh, her body language tells a lot, so does yours. If you are constantly fidgeting and constantly knitting your hands, she'll know you are nervous. If she isn't smiling, isn't interactive and isn't present in your conversation, you'll know she isn't interested. Pick up on those cues!
Smile! Your pearly whites are your best asset and it makes you look less nervous and way more approachable. Just smile at her, flash her a big toothy one and she'll see that you are more approachable and not so nervous!
10. Ask Questions
When you are flirting, no matter what gender, you've got to ask questions! Learn about the girl you are trying to flirt with and really figure out what she is all about! Open ended questions are the best girls!
11. Make a Move
Making a move can be really difficult in the beginning, especially if you've never flirted with a girl before, but girls, you've got to go with it. It could be something as simple as holding her hand!
12. Be Confident in Yourself
Confidence is something that all girls are attracted to. Aren't you attracted to someone who is confident in themselves? That's what you've got to be -- confident in who you are and what you are all about.
13. Look Amazing
With confidence comes looking amazing. You've got to be confident in what you look like and what outfit you are wearing, otherwise you won't feel comfortable flirting!
14. Be Yourself
Nobody wants to flirt with someone who is trying to hard or acting like something you're not. Most of the time girls can tell when you're putting on an act, so I wouldn't consider if you're trying to flirt!
15. Think about Yourself
What would you like? When it comes to flirting, just think about what you want her to be doing because she likely wants the same thing. Of course there's no guarantee that it will work, but then again flirting is never a guarantee.
16. Find a Reason to Lean in
Point out something that needs to be whispered about! This way you have to lean in and get closer to her. When you get closer, she'll be able to smell your perfume plus who doesn't like being close to the person they're flirting with?
17. Find Common Ground
This rule applies pretty much across the board, no matter who you are or who you're flirting with, you should try and find common ground. Is there a show you both like? Talk about it! Maybe you both like books or sports. Test out some things, it'll be a great way keep the conversation going.
So girls, these are all of my tips that I use when flirting with a girl. What about your tips? Any that you have that you can share with other lesbians?
This article was written in collaboration with editor Lydia Sheehan.