Goodness, there are many lessons to learn from a breakup, aren’t there? If you are going through a breakup right now or just got over a breakup, don’t look at it as time wasted because whether you’re consciously aware or not, there are lessons to learn from a breakup. Think of this article as a way to get through this tough time alongside someone who wants to open your eyes to a different side of breaking up.
1. Find out What You like and Don’t like
One of the most powerful lessons to learn from a breakup is that you find out what you like and don’t like about the guys out there. Obviously there are a lot of eligible bachelors out there, but just because some guy has X and Y doesn’t mean he’s got the whole package that will make you want to seal the deal. After a breakup, really analyze what you liked in the guy and what you didn’t – this will help you make better choices moving forward.
2. Don’t Give Your Heart up Too Quickly
How many relationships have you been in that swept you off your feet and you just couldn’t help but fall head over heals for the guy? If you’re an emotionally driven girl like me, the answer is probably a lot. I’ve learned through breakups that it’s super important not to give your heart up too quickly. Sure, you can go gaga over his bod or his eyes or his dreamy smile, but be cautiously aware of your feelings. At the end of a relationship, you will learn that it probably wasn’t worth getting so emotionally attached to someone without letting time work its magic first.
3. You Can’t Change Someone
This is a biggie – breaking up with someone teaches you that you cannot change anyone. No matter how badly you want to turn Joe Schmo into David, if he doesn’t want to change he never will…so stop trying. Sometimes people enter into relationships thinking that the other person will somehow magically turn into the perfect partner through time, communication, and pushing. But when it ends, and you knew it would, you realize that your inner compass always knows the answer and that you can’t try to make someone change.
4. Everything Will Work out as It Should
Women are dreamers, aren’t we? We tend to think that we’re happy and in love when in reality it may just be the idea we’re happy and in love with. When a relationship ends, a great lesson learned is that everything will always work out the way it’s suppose to. Maybe the guy you fell in love with years ago has changed, and had it not ended you would have been miserable or living a life you didn’t plan on. Breakups teach that if it’s meant to be, it will work out no matter the distance or number of fights. If it’s not meant to be, it will end.
5. Find out Who Your True Friends Are
Who do you turn to when you’re going through a rough patch? Almost always you run to your best friends, right? I know I do. Going through a breakup will teach you who your TRUE friends are.
6. Being Alone is Healthy
Who says being single is a bad thing?! If you’re hearing this lie from the little nagging voice inside your head, stop listening to it. It’s actually VERY healthy to be single because it’s a beautiful time for you to discover what drives you, motivates you, and excites you; it’s a time for you to chase your dreams without having anyone tie you down. Enjoy and embrace the freedom, girl! You don’t need a man to complete you; you don’t need a man to make you feel beautiful or worthy…you already are beautiful and worthy.
7. Don’t Settle for Just Anyone
Girlfriend, it’s because you already are beautiful and worthy that you do NOT need to settle with someone just for the sake of saying you’re in a relationship or having a guy follow you around. Breakups teach us this extremely important lesson. It’s not healthy to settle with someone, and if you felt that you were settling when you were in the relationship, then count your blessings it’s over.
Breakups can obviously be a very difficult thing to get through. Of course you will need to cry it out and allow time to heal your heart, but I can promise you that it will heal and that if it didn’t work out, there is someone out there way better for you! Consider all the lessons you can learn from a breakup and celebrate it rather than dwell on it. What lessons have you learned from a breakup?