If you've ever wondered how exactly you can go about getting that guy or man you really like, we're right there with you! Thankfully, lovepanky has created a super helpful guide full of amazing tips on how you can achieve this! Keep reading to discover these so that you can put them into play ASAP!
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Wait for the Signs
I know this has been mentioned before, but it’s important. If you feel like a guy is distant and you’re unsure as to whether or not they want to be in a relationship with you, then you can’t just ask him in order to soothe your insecurities. This reeks of desperation and low self-esteem.
You have to wait for him to show the signs. These can be anything from talking about the future with you to actually calling you his girlfriend. So long as you’re confident in his answer being “yes” when you ask him, then just do it.
It's like playing a delicate game of emotional chess. Be observant and take note of his body language and actions. Trust your instincts. If he shares personal stories, warmly embraces your quirks, or makes a consistent effort to spend time with you, these are your green lights. Remember, if he's making room for you in his life, you're already on the winning path. Above all, maintain your grace and give him the space to reciprocate your affection without feeling cornered. Patience is your greatest asset, and it will pay off if he's the right one.
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Make Sure He Knows You Deeply
If a guy hardly knows you but you want him to be your boyfriend, it’s just a bad idea to ask him. Why? Because it’s probably way too early to commit. You want to make sure a guy truly knows who you are as a person.
You don’t want to ask a guy to be your boyfriend when he barely knows anything about you. Firstly, if he says yes and he gets to know you more and realizes you’re not what he thought, you’ll be devastated when he ends it. And if he says no, you’ll be hurt. So just wait until you’ve shown your true colors.
Spending quality time together is vital. Go on adventures, share experiences, and engage in conversations that reveal your hopes, dreams, and quirks. Let him see you in different lights – laughing, being passionate about your interests, and handling challenge. It’s crucial he understands and connects with the real you, not just the surface level persona. Remember, building a deep connection is the foundation of a lasting relationship. So ensure the moments you create together are meaningful and let the bond you’re forming blossom naturally.
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Get to Know Him Deeply
The same goes for getting to know him. Why would you want to be in a committed relationship with someone you hardly even know?
If you’re just looking to ask him to be your boyfriend so you can have the label of a “boyfriend,” it’s a mistake. You should know all the major things about him and what he values first.
Take the time to discover his passions, fears, and dreams. Find out how he spends his Sundays, what books he loves, and the movies that move him. Share stories about your childhood, discuss the quirks that make you unique, and don't shy away from the deeper conversations. It's these intimate details that forge a strong connection, far beyond surface-level attraction. Remember, it's about building a foundation that’s strong enough to support a lasting relationship, not just about wearing the ‘boyfriend’ title.
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Do It in Private
Now that you’ve established the above and you actually want to ask him, you should probably do it in private. Some may think it’s romantic to bring up this conversation in front of a lot of people, but your guy will feel pressured and that’s never a good sign.
You want to make sure he feels comfortable to speak his mind when you ask him. This takes the pressure off and also allows him to be honest about how he feels. And that will be good for you.
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Mention It in Casual Conversation
If you’re really slick about asking a guy to be your boyfriend, you’re more likely to get him to agree to it. In order to do this, it has to be casual and you can’t put a lot of pressure into the question.
If he feels like it’s a no-big-deal type of situation, he’ll be more likely to say yes. So just bring up the prospect of him being your boyfriend in casual conversation and see if he thinks it’s a good idea. This also helps you get his honest opinion.
You might, for example, be chatting about your weekend plans when you toss in a comment like, "You know, I always have such a great time with you. It'd be cool to call you my official partner in crime one of these days," with a playful nudge. It's light, it's breezy, and it effortlessly plants the idea in his mind without making it feel like a heavy conversation. Keep the vibe fun and the pressure low, and before you know it, he may just jokingly agree—which could be the first step to making it official.
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Men in general judge more from appearances than from reality. All men have eyes, but few have the gift of penetration.
Just Call Him Your Boyfriend and See How He Reacts
This is a really sneaky way to ask a guy to be your boyfriend because you’re not actually asking. Just tell him about a conversation you were having with your mom about your “boyfriend” and see if he reacts in any concerning way.
If he doesn’t show any sign of disliking that term, then go back and ask if it was okay. If he says yes, then boom! He’s your boyfriend. If he gets uncomfortable, just backtrack and assure him that it’s not a big deal.
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Just Be Honest and Tell Him How You Feel
This is probably the best way to go about making a guy your boyfriend. Just open up to him. Tell him that you think he’s great and you want a relationship with him.
If you tell him that you don’t want anyone else and can’t see yourself dating someone else, he’ll feel flattered. Then just ask him if he feels the same and if he wants to be your boyfriend. Easy as that.
When it comes to relationships, honesty is the best policy. Being open and honest with your feelings can help you get the man you want without seeming clingy or desperate. It's important to express your feelings in a respectful and mature way. Make sure to let him know that you think he's great and that you're interested in having a relationship with him. Let him know that you don't want to date anyone else and that you only have eyes for him. Ask him if he feels the same way and if he would like to be your boyfriend. If you are honest and upfront about your feelings, this can be a great way to start a relationship.
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Ask Him to Be Your plus One to an Important Event – then Ask Him
Going to a wedding or a party together is a significant event in any new relationship. It’s like you’re announcing to everyone that you’re together.
It can be a little scary for the both of you. However, if he steps up to the plate and treats you like a girlfriend the whole time, you can just ask him if he wants to make it official. Depending on how the events go, he may love the idea.
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Never do It Mid-sex or Even Right after
We all know a guy’s mind is clouded during sexual times. While you might think it’s a great opportunity to ask him to be your boyfriend, it’s not. You may very well just ruin the mood or get him to agree when he’s not thinking clearly.
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Do It during an Intimate Moment
Knowing how to ask a guy to be your boyfriend also means knowing when to read the moment. Asking during the right time can mean the difference between walking away in an official relationship and walking away without an answer.
The best time to ask is during a particularly intimate and personal moment. When you both have just opened up and shared deep information, just tell him how you feel and ask if he’d like to be yours officially.
Knowing how to ask a guy to be your boyfriend without sounding clingy is something all women should learn to do. Since guys can be a little fickle about commitment, it’s best to keep these tips handy.
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