Because dealing with a cheating husband or boyfriend is not an easy thing to do, I must tell you that there are quite a few mistakes women make when men cheat. The truth is that cheaters cheat, and sometimes there’s nothing you could have done to prevent it. Of course, you should always try to work on your relationship so you can increase the intimacy between you and your partner, but sometimes, no matter what you do, some men just cheat because of all kinds of different reasons. Here are the most common mistakes women make when men cheat:
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1. They Start Investigating
One of the most common mistakes women make when men cheat is that they start investigating every little thing they see or hear. While sometimes it’s natural to be suspicious, there are times when you could be wrong and you could accuse your partner of something that they didn’t do. Make sure you gather all the facts before you accuse him of cheating and don’t spend all your energy investigating every little detail.
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It is important to remember that cheating is not always the result of a partner being unfaithful. In some cases, it could be a sign of an emotional or physical need that is not being met in the relationship. It is also important to remember that communication is key. If there are issues that you are having in the relationship, make sure to talk to your partner about it and try to work it out together. Additionally, it is important to remember that you should never jump to conclusions if your partner is acting differently. Talk to them about it and try to understand what is going on before making assumptions.
2. They Blame the Other Woman
Yes, it’s natural to feel mad, but before rushing to blame the other woman, try to remember that your partner played a significantly big part in that affair and that nobody forced him to commit adultery. He had the right to choose, only his decision was not the best that he could have made.
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3. They Try to Change to Keep Him
Even though you think that it was your fault, I must tell you that a relationship requires two people in order to work properly. There’s nothing wrong with trying to improve certain aspects of your life, just do it for you and not to please a certain man. Just like Kate Downs said, “If your man is cheating, it’s not a reflection of your worth, but an indication that he is incapable of handling the responsibility of maintaining a relationship.”
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The article suggests that when men cheat, it's not always the woman's fault. Women should not feel like they need to change themselves to make a relationship work. Making changes should be done for oneself, not to please another person. It is important to remember that cheating is an indication of the person's inability to maintain a relationship, not a reflection of the woman's worth. Women should not blame themselves for the actions of their partners. It is important to build up self-esteem and remember that no one deserves to be cheated on.
4. They Think That They Can Change Them
Most women who are cheated on tend to think that their partner just made a mistake and that they can change him and his old habits. Well, they couldn’t be more wrong, since nobody can actually change anyone. In order for a person to change, they should be the ones who want that and they are the ones who can achieve it as well.
5. It Was Just an Exception
When they are cheated on, some women might tend to forgive their partners, believing that it was just a one-time thing, that it won’t happen again and that it was only an exception due to certain circumstances. Well, before you decide to accept this explanation, make sure your partner is really honest and that he really feels sorry for what he did. Allow him to prove to you that he still loves you, but be careful when it comes to making a decision that concerns both of you.
6. A Child Will Help Him Settle down
This is one of the worst mistakes women make when their men cheat. You shouldn’t use a child to keep an unfaithful man by your side! You should have a child when you are ready, when you know that you can provide what’s best for your little one and not because of some selfish reasons. Just try to remember that your partner will not love you more if you have his child or if you marry him.
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Having a child with an unfaithful partner is a mistake that many women make, as it does not guarantee that the man will stay faithful or that he will love you more. The child may end up feeling neglected or used as a bargaining chip in the relationship, and this is not a healthy environment for a child to grow up in. It’s important to make sure you are both ready to have a child and are in a stable, loving relationship before deciding to have a baby. Additionally, it’s important to be aware of the financial and emotional costs of raising a child so that you are both prepared for the responsibility.
7. They Live Their Life through Their Man
This is another common mistake most women make when men cheat. They are so scared of being alone that they are willing to do everything they can just to keep that man by their side. They give up on their dreams and all they do is just to make their partner happy. Studies show that “[w]omen who let a man control the relationship eventually feel cheated and angry.”
Being cheated on is a very painful experience, but you can recover from it and you can overcome that hard period of your life with the help of your loved ones. Do you know any other mistakes women make when men cheat? Please share your thoughts with us in the comments section!
Sources: hubpages.com, thestir.cafemom.com, weeklyworldnews.com
Comments
Kristi: How do you accuse a man of cheating with the possibility of being wrong if he's cheated?
meercy: Am failing to move on,everyday is hard for me.if he could've come clean about the cheating,we could have had try to move on.
kaylee: Ladies you often blame the man for cheating when you gave him a motive too, it doesn't make it right at all but we should try to understand and work things out if it repairable.
Amanda: Although my husband didn't have sex with her, of what I know of, women should not have sex with men who cheat on them, until the man ask's Jesus Christ, the Son of God, the Messiah, the Savior for forgiveness, tells you he's sorry, he gets away from the other woman ( even quit his job, if she works there ) and YOUR MAN GETS AN STD/HIV TESTS INCLUDING TESTS FOR SCABIES, HERPES, AND BODY LICE. CONDOMS DON'T PREVENT HERPES/ SCABIES/ AND BODY LICE!
Wanita: Some women, go to the extent of going to fight their huband's mistress, without considering the fact, that their so-called husband, played a major role in the illicit affair.
Jehz: I don't think there's anything wrong with investigating your husband. My mom does it but in a good way, i mean even I noticed it. My dad always tried to deny it also even if it was right in front of me. I wanted to speak and say that what he's doing is too obvious and that it breaks my heart to see him cheat on mom. But yeah, i think children should stay out of this and let their parents handle things.
Amanda: She was our Marriage Counselor and my husband told her his feelings for her and she didn't tell me and she didn't let him go as a client, she didn't say: I have to let the both of you go to save your Marriage. No, she continued to stretch and arch her back suggestively in front of both of us and she invaded his space, and gave him high fives. She gave him a high five in front of me once, and I put my hand out to hers, to see if she'd high five me: she looked at me like she didn't want to touch me!
kissmebbylove: never, ever stay with a man who cheated ladies. value yourself. it may seem like he is the only one out there, but he it's! never forget your self worth.
Sruthi: He cheated and left me for another woman, then this other woman cheated on him. He begged me to take him back and I did cos I believe in second chances like an idiot. And he did it again. Left me for another woman. So take my advice and run as fast as you can.
Shae23: There is no "motive" for cheating. If a man wants to stay and be faithful he will. If a man wants to cheat he will. There is nothing a woman can do to cause a man to cheat. Do not ever think that a cheating man is your fault Ladies. That decision lies with him totally!!!
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