Modern Day Romance the Hook-up Culture ...

Vanessa

Romantic comedies like "No Strings Attached" and "Friends with Benefits" have convinced many that booty-calls can one day turn into a fairy-tale romance. Unfortunately, we don't live in a world like that. Nowadays, 'not caring' is the modern day romance. Participating in the hook-up culture can be fun and easy, but did you ever stop to think about what you're missing out on?

Traditional dating is dying out because no one wants to make solid plans. Delete your Tinder account and let your crush know that you do indeed like him. Playing hard to get isn't always attractive - what if he sees it as discouraging? What if you're both into each other and could be one of the greatest love stories ever told, but you refuse to try because of your fear of rejection? People would rather find FWB (friends with benefits) because there's no commitment, which means there's no heartache.

I recently came across an article on the NY Times about dating/hook-ups and I thought it was really interesting. The author talks about how, "for my generation, friendship often morphs into a sexual encounter and then reverts to friendship the next day. And it’s easy as long as you don’t put yourself on the line or try too hard."

Of course, if you're single and love everything about the single life, more power to you! If you're someone who's participating in the hook-up culture and hoping to find your Prince Charming amongst it, try something else because hook-ups and booty-calls rarely lead to your ideal relationship!

What do you think of the hook-up culture?

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Hook ups do have their space for sure. The sad part is, more and more people (not even just men), want this easy no strings attached thing. I personally can't do it! If I'm with you I'm really with you, not just for the sex. I want something to actually come out of it. I still do have hope that someone out there wants more than just a hook up.

I don't think anyone expects to find Prince Charming from hooking up..that's the point isn't it

Studies show our lives now are 20x more stressful than our grandparents. It's no wonder that ppl r sick of relationships, it's just another stressor to add to the mix. I for one am open to a relationship and open to a hook up, but it has to be the right person. That could take years of research for me to decide if you are a good match for me.

I think hookups have their place...unfortunately for me I want a relationship, but have yet to find a man who doesn't see me as just another conquest.

So true

When I was at high school I never dated or hooked up with anyone. When I was 18 I signed up to a dating site, but at the time I was really strict on all the guys that talked to me. I met a couple of guys but after a year I got rid of the account. I started talking to one of the guys more in the next year, and we had a really nice friendship so I thought I'd ask him out. Sooo glad I did, he's loved me since the very start but was a bit shy! I always thought I'd never be ready to be intimate, but 3 and a half years later I'm in a really happy and healthy relationship and it's going to stay that way :)

its seems to have turned into a game definately

These niggas and bitches ain't shit. Everybody cheats and sneaks around and nobody wants to trust anybody bcus everybody cheats and sneaks around. And for the ones who don't they aren't doing the relationship thing bcus everybody cheats and sneaks around

i feel like im in a dating circus right now. i dont know who to trust or who to believe. im in my forties and it definately is not how it used to be. good men are very hard to find and its all quite exhausting sometimes . its like u never know what u are actually getting in a man ..... if that makes sense

Today love life sucks. When I look at my parents their first love really lasted but mine changed over 4. It's all about sex now

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