Modern Day Romance the Hook-up Culture ...

By Vanessa

Romantic comedies like "No Strings Attached" and "Friends with Benefits" have convinced many that booty-calls can one day turn into a fairy-tale romance. Unfortunately, we don't live in a world like that. Nowadays, 'not caring' is the modern day romance. Participating in the hook-up culture can be fun and easy, but did you ever stop to think about what you're missing out on?

Traditional dating is dying out because no one wants to make solid plans. Delete your Tinder account and let your crush know that you do indeed like him. Playing hard to get isn't always attractive - what if he sees it as discouraging? What if you're both into each other and could be one of the greatest love stories ever told, but you refuse to try because of your fear of rejection? People would rather find FWB (friends with benefits) because there's no commitment, which means there's no heartache.

I recently came across an article on the NY Times about dating/hook-ups and I thought it was really interesting. The author talks about how, "for my generation, friendship often morphs into a sexual encounter and then reverts to friendship the next day. And it’s easy as long as you don’t put yourself on the line or try too hard."

Of course, if you're single and love everything about the single life, more power to you! If you're someone who's participating in the hook-up culture and hoping to find your Prince Charming amongst it, try something else because hook-ups and booty-calls rarely lead to your ideal relationship!

What do you think of the hook-up culture?

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I was once in a friends with benefits situation. I really liked him but he told me it would bring us closer. It's not my kind of thing, it's like you know that you're not the only girl and it hurts sometimes. I think that I can't do things like that because I'm too much of a perfectionist (perfect boy; perfect relationship, or else I'm not going with it.) we dated because I refused to do anything with him because I felt like I was being used ( which I was.) Only to realize months later after I distanced myself that I was a booty call. FWB is not for me at a all, I'm kind of old schooled for my age.

I've done the whole relationship thing, marriage, kids, divorce. I enjoy being single without having to answer to and clean up after and cook for a man. Do at this point in my life, a hookup with one friend every once in awhile is all I'm looking for at this point in my life. I don't judge an I expect not to be judged!

I think hookups have their place...unfortunately for me I want a relationship, but have yet to find a man who doesn't see me as just another conquest.

So true

Hook ups do have their space for sure. The sad part is, more and more people (not even just men), want this easy no strings attached thing. I personally can't do it! If I'm with you I'm really with you, not just for the sex. I want something to actually come out of it. I still do have hope that someone out there wants more than just a hook up.

Sigh! Forced to join tinder in order to meet people! That's the state of late 80s and early 90s babies! Technology is forced on is, people forget how to approach :(

It honestly hadls everything to do with today's music. It's all abt sex. And cheating and violence 🙉

Honestly, it depends what you want. I've been through the whole relationship game, heart break, etc. and my mind set was "I'm so done with this!" Well, I know That's probably not the case, but right now I'm just looking for something easy and casual. I always viewed sex and love as two things apart from each other, especially because I've never had sex with anyone I've been in love with. I in all truth, do appreciate my current friends with benefits relationship. But I think that it all depends on the person, their feelings, views on sex, etc. the previous friends with benefits relationship I had, when it ended, was much less awkward than after the end of a relationship, however there are still going to be lost feelings, at least I think (if you are having an actual fab relationship, as in those you do care about the other person) random hookups and one night stands are different from friends with benefits. I've tried to explain these varying levels of sexual partners to people...yes I have a list and have classified all, or almost all of them... Is that wrong? But I do agree that if you start hooking up with someone you have romantic feelings for it's only going to lead to more heart break.

Studies show our lives now are 20x more stressful than our grandparents. It's no wonder that ppl r sick of relationships, it's just another stressor to add to the mix. I for one am open to a relationship and open to a hook up, but it has to be the right person. That could take years of research for me to decide if you are a good match for me.

These niggas and bitches ain't shit. Everybody cheats and sneaks around and nobody wants to trust anybody bcus everybody cheats and sneaks around. And for the ones who don't they aren't doing the relationship thing bcus everybody cheats and sneaks around

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