Did it ever happen to you to think after a big fight with your partner, that there must be quite a few secrets men hide from women? Well, you couldn’t be more right! Just like most women have some dirty little secrets they like to hide from everybody else, you must know that there are a few common secrets men hide from women. They aren’t so gifted at expressing themselves and that’s why they usually prefer not to bring into discussion some sensitive issues. But, that doesn’t mean those secrets don’t exist. Just read on and find out what your partner is hiding from you.
1. They Have Sexual Fantasies
Among the most common secrets men hide from women is, of course, the fact that they have sexual fantasies, even though most of them will deny it when asked about them. I honestly don’t know why they do that, because everyone, man or woman, has sexual fantasies, since everybody has quite a vivid imagination. Maybe they fear that you might get scared by their fantasies or that you may get them wrong. The best thing to do is to just sit down and talk to him and find out more details about those fantasies. Maybe there are a few things you can actually do together.
2. Cut to the Chase
Another thing most men usually hide from women is the fact that they don’t care at all about all the little details of your stories. They want you to skip all the unnecessary facts and cut to the chase and tell them what’s really important. They like to keep it simple and not over-analyze things, because they see it as a waste of time, effort and energy. So, try not to bore your partner by telling him all there is to know about a certain thing, just cut to the chase and keep it simple!
3. They Don’t Know What to Say on the First Date
Most men see conversation on the first date as being extremely painful, because most of them haven’t got a clue about what to talk about on your first date to sweep you off your feet and to show you what a great catch they really are. That’s why most men prefer those crazy first dates when you don’t just go to dinner and talk, but you do other fun activities too, like going to an amusement park or even skydiving or bungee jumping.
4. Sometimes They Would like You to Just Shut up
I know this may sound a little bit rough but sadly, it’s actually true. Most men would like their partners to just shut up from time to time and just be quiet for a little while. Experts say that because the male brain is more linear, "communicating at work all day exhausts his brain more than yours," so that’s why sometimes it’s best to just give him some space and some time for himself, and not smother him with all your stories.
5. They Don’t Want to do All the Dirty Work by Themselves
Another thing most men hate, but they are afraid to tell you because they don’t want to get you upset, is the fact that they don’t like to do all the dirty work all by themselves. Sometimes they feel used, so that’s why you should show your appreciation more often and why not, give them a hand. I’m not telling you to kill that spider, just to help them scrub the bathroom floor or to take out the trash once in a while. After all, it’s not that hard to do it.
6. They Often Lie to Keep the Peace
A lot of men tend not to say what’s on their minds when they’re fighting with their partner, because they fear the conflict would escalate, so that’s why they often lie about certain things just to keep the peace in their relationship. I’m not saying it’s the right thing to do, but the next time you find out that he lied to you about something, try to think about his reasons for lying before you start a huge fight.
7. They Want to Feel Attractive
Just like you, most men want to feel attractive and desired, even though they’re not saying it as often as you do. Men are insecure too and they want to know your opinion about them. They want to know how you see them and what you really think about them. So that’s why, from time to time, you should remind your partner why you love him so much, what makes him so great and why are you so lucky to be with him.
8. They Get Jealous
If you spend time gushing over a celebrity or keep in touch with your ex, don’t expect your boyfriend to be happy about it. He might pretend that it doesn’t bother him, but love causes jealousy. He doesn’t want to lose you, so he gets jealous when he sees a man that he believes has the ability to steal you away. Of course, he can’t let you see how envious he is, because he doesn’t want to seem insecure.
9. They Cry
No matter your gender, there are things that will make you cry. It might be something major, like the death of a loved one, or something small, like watching a scene from Frozen. Everyone experiences the same emotions, but some hide their feelings better than others.
10. They Want to Feel Special
Men tend to complain that women are needy, but they want to be loved just as much as we do. If you treat him the same way you treat every other man, he’ll feel replaceable. Little things like giving him a kiss goodbye and telling him you love can go a long way. He just wants you to show him how much you care.
11. They Worry about Feeling Masculine
If he wants to change a tire, don’t yell at him about how you’re capable of doing it yourself. Sometimes, guys just want to feel manly. They believe that their masculinity is defined by how strong they are.
12. They Want to Make You Happy
It might feel like your boyfriend doesn’t care, but chances are he’s trying. Sometimes, men honestly don’t know what to do to please you. If the hints you drop aren’t helping, try being blunt with him. He’ll appreciate the help.
13. They Have Guilty Pleasures
You’re not the only one who enjoys reality shows. Keeping Up with the Kardashians and The Bachelor have more male viewers than you’d think. Their girlfriends may have been the ones who got them started with the show, but they continue to watch it in their free time. The drama is just too juicy to miss.
14. They Have Unrealistic Standards
They act like they aren’t asking for much, but men expect women to be perfect. They see stars on magazine covers and watch models on the runway who look flawless. They crave women who are beautiful, talented, and intelligent. It’s great that their standards are high, but most of them have unrealistic expectations.
15. They Enjoy Affection
Don’t believe him when he complains about cuddling. Although men love sex, they also enjoy the more innocent moments of intimacy. At night, he likes feeling your body pressed against his. When you’re watching TV, he likes holding your hand. The little moments are what matters the most.
There are a lot of secrets men usually hide from women, secrets I don’t know about. So, can you give me a hand and tell me what other secrets men are usually keeping from their wives or girlfriends? Please share your opinion with us in the comments section!
This article was written in collaboration with editor Holly Riordan.