21 Must-Know Tips on How to Be a Good Kisser ...

By Heather

21 Must-Know Tips on How to Be a Good Kisser ...

Learning how to be a good kisser can be daunting, especially if you haven't even been kissed yet! Well ladies, I've got the low-down on what men like and how to be a good kisser naturally! So, take a look at the top 10 tips on how to be a good kisser!

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Good Breath

The first tip all revolves around how you taste and what you smell like. When you're about to start kissing a guy, you want to make sure that your breath smells awesome. So girls, pop a mint before you get down to making out, it'll make all of the difference in the world!


Moist Lips

Whether you are in a serious making out situation or just kissing for the first time, you want to make sure that your lips are completely moisturized! For me, a coat of lip gloss always does the trick or you could even try slicking on some chapstick too. Trust me, learning how to be a good kisser starts with how your lips feel!


Closed Eyes

Kissing with your eyes closed doesn't mean that you are fantasizing about someone else, it actually is just a way for you to let your lips take over. Learning how to be a good kisser is not just about how your lips feel, it's all about the senses and filling yourself up with the other person. Try kissing with your eyes closed, it's actually awesome!



One of the biggest challenges when you are first learning how to be a good kisser is positioning yourself correctly right? I know that I had a hard time when I first started to kiss! Well ladies, just make sure to follow his lead and I promise, you'll be fine! Also, don't forget about using your hands!


Add Pressure

Now, I'm not saying that a kiss should be 100% pressure-filled and rough, but adding in a little bit of pressure to a kiss can make it that much more passionate and deeper! So, the next time you are kissing, see what happens when you deepen it and even take a step closer. I swear it'll blow his mind a little!

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Everyone has their own technique when it comes to kissing. What this means is that you'll have to figure out yours, when you start to kiss. Whether it is to suck on their lower lip, or give soft little nibbles – it can be anything!



When you are first learning how to be a good kisser, the first thing that you'll probably end up doing is kissing closed-mouthed. For me, these kisses are always so passionate and tentative, as if you are kissing for the first time ever. When you're kissing close-mouthed, you can still use your tongue and also your teeth, but be gentle!


Use Your Hands

Remember what I said up there about positioning? Well, that involves using your hands as well! Your hands could be in his hair, on his neck or even around his waist. Make sure that you use your hands to pull him in closer and also to keep him close!


Explore with Tongue

Finally ladies, when you move past the close-mouthed kissing and into the french kissing, explore a little with your tongue! There is absolutely no reason why you shouldn't be able to taste your guy completely with your tongue. Trust me, your guy will love it and go wild every time you do it!


Connect with Your Partner

To me, kissing is a very personal thing. It's letting someone into your space, letting someone near you enough to kiss you. That means that you've got to connect with that person. If there is no connection, why would you kiss them?



You can't be a good kisser unless you're brave enough to kiss someone. It's understandable if you don't want to initiate a first kiss, but if you're in a relationship with someone, you can't always wait for them to initiate. You have to do the work occasionally.



Pausing between kisses can feel natural. So don't kiss them for so long that you lose your breath and have to push them away to catch it again. Make sure you pause between every few kisses to avoid an embarrassing moment.


Let Them Lead

If you want to make sure you're giving your partner everything they need, let them take the lead. If they slip their tongue into your mouth, then you can do the same. If they keep giving you closed mouth kisses, then keep it at that.



You don't want to be repetitive. If you are, things can get boring fast. Alternate from kissing their bottom lip to kissing their top lip. Switch from holding their face with your hand to caressing their thigh. Just don't let things get stale.


Smell Good

Your lips aren't the only important part of kissing. There are other factors that contribute to the perfect kiss. Make sure that you're wearing a perfume or deodorant that smells delicious. It also helps to wear something adorable, so that you're nice to look at.



Don't jump right into a heavy make-out session. Let it build up by taking things slow at first, and then move on to more passionate kisses. It's more exciting when the sexual tension has time to build.



It's hard to have a perfect kiss in a bathroom stall. It'll be more romantic if you go to a secluded location that makes you both feel comfortable. While your lips are pressed together, you won't be paying much attention to your surroundings, but nice scenery can never hurt.


Little Nibbles

When you pull away from a kiss, you can always suck on your partner's lip or gently bite it. During the moments you're stuck between kisses, feel free to open your eyes to admire the view.


Pay Attention

Everyone has different likes and dislikes, so you should pay close attention to what your partner likes. The things your ex enjoyed aren't necessarily the same things that your new man will enjoy, so don't be afraid to make changes.


Let Mouth Wander

The lips aren't the only spot where you should place kisses. You can always move down to the neck and shoulder blades. Do whatever your partner is comfortable with.



The best way to be a good kisser is to relax. You don't want to be sweaty and shaky while you're touching your partner. Stop worrying about every little move you make. You need to relax so that you can enjoy the moment.

Learning how to be a good kisser just takes a little practice and some time! All of these tips and tricks should help if you are new at kissing, but what are some of the other ways on how to be a good kisser? Got anymore tips? Share 'em!

This article was written in collaboration with editor Holly Riordan.

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What do you mean by putting pressure like how would i do that?

i think u shouldnt put on lipgloss before kissing he might taste it and it might be nasty

I know this is kinda embarrassing but what if drool/ have a lot of saliva? how do you keep from slobbering all over him? thanks

I 100% agree about moist lips, however, I would like to say that i have been told by guy friends (and well boyfriends) that they do not like lip gloss its sticky and idk they just dont like it, so i would stick with chapstick! good luck ladies : )

Well I've never made-out with a guy before and on Saturday I am meeting up with a really cute guy that I like alot and I'm really hoping that we end up doing it. I am so nervous that I am going to mess up!

How do I get my guy to be more gentle? He gets heated up and passionate really soon, which isn't a bad thing. But I want to take my time while kissing and try out more stuff. But I don't know how to get him to do this! Any ideas?