I can't believe all the myths about soulmates I've heard throughout my life. Honestly, read a romance novel or watch a sappy movie sometime. So many people base their entire love life around the concept of a soulmate. Sadly, the myths about soulmates actually make us strive for something that doesn't exist in the way we're taught to believe.
1. There's Only One
One of the biggest myths about soulmates is there's only one. This myth makes people afraid to commit or afraid to date again after a divorce or after their partner dies. A soulmate is someone who completes you during a specific time. This could be your spouse, your best friend, family members, children or even a pet. If there was only one, we'd be very lonely people.
2. You Need Nothing else
I hate this myth more than any of the others. Apparently, a soulmate should complete you to the point you want nothing else in life. All your hopes and dreams should be secondary. I love my guy, but I still wouldn't be happy unless I could pursue my career, go out with friends or enjoy my hobbies. A soulmate completes part of you, not all of you.
3. Relationships Are Easier
Simply put, no relationship is easy. Relationships take work from both parties. Some people honestly believe if they encounter any problems with a partner then that person must not be “the one.” If you believe someone is your soulmate, shouldn't you work harder to stay together instead of expecting it to all just work out? It's a nice myth, but a relationship with your soulmate isn't going to be a joy ride the whole time.
4. You'll Love the Same Things
Some couples love all the same things. Other couples are complete opposites. Both types of couples have happy, lasting relationships. As you can see, soulmates don't have to love the same things. While you should have a few things you enjoy together, it's fine to have different hobbies and interests. If nothing else, it gives you a little time to yourself and gives you something to talk about later.
5. A Soulmate Must Be a Spouse
A soulmate is usually thought of as a spouse. Soulmates can happen in any type of relationship, not just romantic ones. While everyone has different views on what makes up a soulmate, the main point they agree on is the person should have a major impact on your life. I consider my closest family, such as my parents and grandmother, to be soulmates because of the vast impact they've had on my life. Of course, I also consider my partner and best friend to be soulmates too.
6. You're Half the Person without Them
After a breakup, some people make themselves believe they're only half the person they used to be. You're still the same person. A soulmate doesn't magically make you whole or take away half of you when they're gone. It hurts when they leave, but you're still whole. This myth often leads to depression, which is a great reason to stop believing it.
7. Just like the Movies
All the romance movies out there make you believe your one and only soulmate will appear out of thin air. After a few bumps in the road, it'll all work out and you'll live happily ever after. Romance movies are fiction. If you don't believe me, just look at all the celebrity couples. How many of them actually live the fairy tale romance? Finding your soulmate may not be easy or work out like the movies.
8. Soulmates Never Cheat
Okay, so I actually sort of believe this one. Personally, I believe anyone who truly cares about you wouldn't cheat on you. They'd talk to you if there was a problem, and have the decency to break up with you instead of cheating. However, some people fully believe soulmates never cheat. They'll ignore all the evidence simply because they feel the person is their soulmate.
9. They Understand You
No one can read your mind and understand everything about you. Soulmates usually want to know more about you, but you'll have to talk to them. Don't expect them to know what you're thinking or understand your quirks immediately. Think about it this way. Do you know everything about your soulmate? Besides, since when do couples truly understand each other?
The whole idea of soulmates is wonderful, but it holds many people back. They spend so much time searching for “the one,” they miss out on everything else. Soulmates exist, but not like we were taught. What do you think about soulmates?