It takes time to get over splitting with your ex, even if he's the wrong guy for you. Eventually you'll look back and wonder what you ever saw in him, or realise that you no longer have any feelings for him. But for some time afterwards you'll miss him and certain things about him. This is what you'll miss about your ex …
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1. His Nickname for You
Picking a nickname for your partner is one of those cute things that couples do, and your ex's name for you probably won't be used by anyone else. So you'll really miss hearing him saying it. It may be a little thing, but it's something you've got used to. But you'll have to let go of it; your next boyfriend will think up another fun little name for you.
2. Places You Went Together
You're also going to miss the places that meant something to both of you, such as the place where you met or where you went for your first date. You might not want to go back there for a while, because it will remind you of him. Or perhaps you're worried you might bump into him there. In time, though, the association will fade and you'll be able to go back there without feeling sad.
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3. His Family
Sometimes you realise that you're going to miss his family more than you'll miss him (I certainly do!). You may have built up quite an attachment to his family, especially if you were with him for a long time. But you don't have to lose touch with them; if everyone behaves like adults, it's possible to remain friends with your ex's family.
4. The inside Jokes You Shared
Every couple has an inside joke that always makes them laugh, and nobody else finds funny. It's one of those 'couple things' that nobody else will understand, since it comes from the intimacy between you. Losing this inside joke makes you sad because it's one more sign that your relationship is over; it's a break with the past.
5. Your Plans for Your Future Together
One of the bigger losses that you feel is having to let go of the plans you made together. You may have intended to do fun things like travel together or go to a festival. Or you may have talked about long-term plans like buying a home together or starting a family. It's sad realising that these plans will never be accomplished now - at least, not with this particular guy.
6. How He Looked after You
Just because a guy isn't the right one for you doesn't mean that he's not a decent guy. Maybe he looked after you when you were sick or had too much to drink. Maybe he made an effort to cheer you up when you were feeling down. You're bound to miss being looked after, it's so sweet.
7. His Unique Qualities
And then you're going to miss his unique qualities, the things that made him 'him.' You can love more than one person in your life, and probably will, but you love each one for a different reason. So when you split, they will leave a hole in your life, because that person can never be entirely replaced.
What do you miss most about your exes - and have you ever wondered why you dated them?
Comments
Alex: I don't miss my exes one bit. They did nothing for me after I did loads for them. They were so ungrateful for everything that I did, to this day I wonder why I went out with them in the first place. Oh, I know now: they were good looking and up for anything but they were not nice or decent people. And they were losers. My family noticed their bad qualities quicker then I did. The only thing good about them is that it made me grow up loads, become more streetwise to the world and stronger as a person. Lessons learnt and now I'm with a great man who treats me like a princess and is also my best friend. Looks aren't incredibly important to me anymore but it does help that my man is easy on the eye and his wonderful personality wins hands down and has made me appreciate that I can just be me and not to please everyone. So far, he's made me a better person and I couldn't have it any other way.
She: This is soooo fuckin true. Going through it now.
Courtney: *sighs* This article is really hitting close to home for me right now; I have been thinking about my past boyfriend a lot lately. Our beautiful times definitely outweighed our bad times.
Kitty: I miss when he used to call me every lunch time on the dot.
Mgrocco31: Yeah I miss my BF
LaReina: Any single guys and gals out there. RUN fast as you can if a guy gal is married!!!! RUNNNNN! ✌️
Jennifer: 😭 it's tough!
Slim: I miss my x and the way he would make me feel like what I said made sense even though what I said didn't make sense at all he at least made me feel smart lmao😂....the way he would make me laugh when I was sooo upset with work and school, he'd always try and joke about it....most of all the way he would tell me he'd love me😔 not sure if I could ever meet someone that can tell me the way he did
Adea: this is not a good article..it makes grief worse! really I think people shouldnt remind you of such stuff or tell you what you will miss and remind you how terrible you will feel..people should be more helpful and I can just tell you that "You will survive!" and you will probably become smarter and stronger in many ways..you will get over him/her eventually and missing something doesnt mean you miss the person..maybe you will get something or someone much better in the future..be strong and head up!
Kayy: Hahahah i dont f***ing miss that t**t!
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