Do you hate being single? Many people feel that there must be something wrong with them if they can't find a partner, and that they are only complete if they are in a relationship. But being in a relationship isn't essential, and can even be quite problematic. Being single has many advantages. Here are some points to remember if you hate being single.
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1. Other Girls Envy You
If you hate being single, remind yourself that other girls envy you your freedom. However happy you are in a relationship, there are times when life seems that it would be so much easier if you were single. Perhaps they wish they could do what they wanted and not have to consider someone else when they make decisions.
2. Relationships Don't Solve Everything
We've probably all fantasised at some point about Prince Charming coming along to solve all our problems. However strong you are, life can be tough, and it's good to have someone to lean on. However, being in a relationship doesn't make all your problems magically disappear. Don't expect a partner to solve your difficulties for you.
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3. You Complained when You Had a Boyfriend
We tend to blot out the less pleasant memories, and think nostalgically of the good times. Don't you remember how you used to moan about your boyfriend and his annoying habits? Think back, and you'll recall how you complained about him leaving his dirty laundry on the floor, or how he spent too much time with his friends watching sports.
4. Possibilities
The good thing about being single is that there are so many possibilities for romance. That really amazing guy could be just around the corner. You could meet him anywhere, at any time. Plus the single life offers you a multitude of other possibilities regarding work, study and travel.
5. Be Proactive
If you do want to find a relationship, then you are the one who needs to do something about it. It's true that you often meet someone when you least expect it, but you still need to take some initiative. You won't meet anyone sitting at home with a box set of Mad Men. Get out to some places where you will come into contact with single guys.
6. Are You Ready?
You should ask yourself if you are actually ready to be in a relationship at the moment. Sometimes we are not in a good place because of other issues in our lives, and the search for romance will be better postponed. Or perhaps you have not recovered from a previous break-up. Although you may not enjoy being single, it can be the best choice right now.
7. Freedom
Being single means you have complete freedom to do what you want with your life. However happy you are in a relationship, having a partner means that you have to take them into account when making decisions about your life and career. As a single girl, you can move to a new city for work, study, or simply because you want to.
Being single isn't all bad, so don't fret if it feels as though you've been without a boyfriend forever. A partner should be an enhancement to your life, not an essential part of it that you can't do without. Enjoy your single time, and someone may come along when you least expect it. Which do you prefer - being on your own, or having a relationship?
Comments
Ashley: Single is sooo gr88 can do what you want whenever you want :)
liv: "A partner should be an enhancement to your life, not an essential part of it that you can't do without." -- great words Its true.. we must be happy with ourselves && love ourselves before sharing it :)
Jomc: I am recently single & absolutely loving the freedom :)
Adriana: Best tip I've ever read about hating being single: "if you don't enjoy the time you spend with yourself, who else is going to?"
Alanta: Awesome
Lppurplegirl11: I've never had a boyfriend but I'm not in a rush either :) I really do believe a girl has gotta be content with being single before being with a partner. People come together to *share* their happiness! It isn't fair to burden someone with the responsibility of making you happy. I have a friend who was absolutely miserable and self loathing because she was single. She found a great guy and is very happy now (which I am so happy for her about) but I deeply worry about how she will handle a break up, should it occur :'(
Jass: Single for 3 yrs and love it. I too have finally found who I am. Love the freedom. Tho I have no clue where single men go to hang out at my age lol first time I've been Single too. Embrace what is now and like @lily said everything happens for a reason
Stacy: #8 Marriage sucks.
Emma: Great article!
Lavern: I got married at age 22 and ended it at age 27.Got into a relationship again 1 year after my marriage ended.we lasted for 7 yrs.I didnt realize i was in a relationship for almost half of my life!Now i am 4 yrs single and i am absolutely loving it.I can actually say i have a life.It can get lonely at times but it's more fun i can say..I am now ready to be in a relationship again.I'm confident i can make the right man happy..Let the suitors come while i entertain myself.
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