Everyone regards the friend zone as dangerous territory that’s terrible to enter. Getting rejected is depressing, but there are positives to being in the friend zone that some people don’t realize. If you find yourself in this situation, don’t fret. Stop looking at the negatives and find that silver lining.
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1. Sweet Setups
If you find yourself stuck in the friend zone, use the opportunity to search for a new guy. Your crush is bound to have friends that have tons in common with him. If you think you’re compatible with him, then why wouldn’t you have the same chemistry with his friends? You might get lucky. If your crush isn’t meant to be your boyfriend, maybe he’s meant to be your matchmaker.
2. Still Friends
It’s nice to have guy friends that you enjoy spending time with. Be happy that you’re buddies with your crush and not just admiring him from afar. So what if you don’t get the added benefits of being his girlfriend? It’ll hurt a bit, but you have the strength to get over him. If you can’t seem to get him out of your head, don’t spend a huge amount of time with him. There’s no point in hanging out if it’s only causing you pain.
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3. Additional Advice
If you’re going to ask someone for guy advice, you might as well go to someone whose opinion you respect. If you feel like another guy is treating you poorly, ask the guy who put you in the friend zone what he thinks about the situation. Since he doesn’t have any ulterior motives, he should give you genuine advice. Sometimes you need the opinion of an outsider. Don’t be scared to ask for help!
4. Role Model
Celebrities aren’t the only role models you can have. You shouldn’t compare every guy to the one that got away, but he can set an example for the men that follow. If others treat you poorly, remember that not all guys are bad. Don’t settle for less than you deserve. Having someone around to remind you that you’re worthy of the best treatment will help you in your selection in the future.
5. Feel Free to Talk
Once you move on and find other guys to lust after, you’ll be happy someone friend-zoned you. It can be hard to talk to guy friends about your crushes. You never know if they secretly like you and if you’re making them jealous. But with the guy who friend-zoned you, you don’t have to worry. You can talk about your new male interests all you want without worrying about hurting him.
6. No Stress
It’s always stressful to try to impress someone. You’re constantly aiming to look beautiful, tell funny jokes, and make yourself seem like a catch. When you know that you’re not going to end up with your crush, you can stop trying so hard to impress him. Without putting on a front, you’ll feel more comfortable and can enjoy your time without wondering what he’s thinking. Your bond can strengthen in the friend-zone.
7. Could Change
You never know whether your crush’s feelings for you will change. One day, he could realize that you’re the girl that he should be with. Of course, you shouldn’t get your hopes up. Just enjoy your friendship and don’t rule out any other men that enter your life. You never know what will happen.
If you don’t end up dating your crush, be happy that you’re friends. Have you ever been friend-zoned before? Did you handle it well?
Comments
Kirsty: Friend zoned by the guy I've had a crush on for ages because we work too closely together on our degree projects and dont wanna risk getting into an awkward situation and ruining all our hard work. not complaining though, we work even closer together now and I get some eye candy to help keep me motivated ;)
thatcanadianinternetgirl: I was friendzoned yesterday and it broke my heart. I would have been okay with it... But the girl he does like is my best friend. She doesn't feel the same way but I'm still sad.
Mawu: Friendzoned by someone ive been talking online for a year now. He said he likes me. And i told him i like him too buz distance is a bitch!! We cant be together. But he re assured me what we have is different. Hes seeing someone now and we still talk like nothings changed. Im heartbroken but i guess this is the battle i should not fight for anymore. Its not our time.
Justhere: Yes and it's amazing how close of a friend I have
Swimluvr: I met a sweet guy 3 years ago, and we\'ve been friends ever since. I get the feeling he likes me, but I don\'t know if I should tell him I like him or not.
Lottee: I friend zoned my ex boyfriend, its because i dont want to loose him anymore. Like what he did before, he cheated and left me alone. And then after they broke up. He came back. And i told him that i love him so much and i really can't live w/o u,. I dont want you to do that again to me. So lets just be bestfriends :) i hope this will work better
Chloe: Yes, I was friend-zone by my crush. It is kinda shocked when I got his text. And after that I still tried hard to look pretty and tried to impress him. I feel he is impressed but still feel like a friend.
Lindsay: This is great advice !
Tisnag: How abt the girl friend zoning the guy? Idk how to behave arnd the guys I've friend zoned :/
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