If you have ever been in a relationship before, then you know that they take a lot of hard work and commitment. Sure, falling in love is easy, but making sure that that love stays healthy is a whole other ball game. It takes more than just having a natural affection for one another to ensure that a partnership succeeds. It’s all about putting in that work to make sure that you are both as happy and content as possible. Here are nine practical tips to make your relationship run smoothly.
1. Maintain Sense of Self
It puts too much pressure on a relationship if you both morph into one being, only being able to exist as part of your couple. It is important that you maintain a strong sense of self so that not everything you do depends on the other person. It’s not fair on either of you to be so dependent.
2. Don’t Avoid Conflict
The best thing you can do is to meet conflict head-on and address any problems that you might have as soon as they arise. If you stick your head in the sand and ignore them, they will grow and grow and there will be an explosion at some point.
3. Have Fun Together
Don’t forget to have fun! Relationships aren’t supposed to be serious all the time. The way that you can keep each other young and in love is to show your fun sides more and more often. Life is too short to be serious all the time!
Continue to work on your communication skills with one another. The more deeply you can understand your partner, the more smoothly you can navigate certain situations that might arise over the course of the relationship.
5. Don’t Expect ‘Everything’
Wanting someone to ‘give you the world’ is a very big pressure to put on them. Don’t go into a relationship with sky-high expectations about your life together, because if they aren’t all met, you will be constantly disappointed when you don’t need to be.
Always make the time to celebrate things, whether big or little. Promotions, personal milestones, good family news ... all of these things deserve to be celebrated, and it keeps the general mood up.
7. Be Vulnerable
Nobody wants to be in a relationship with someone who is unable to open up to them, so work on showing your partner your vulnerable side and they will reward you by doing the same.
8. Be Appreciative
When you have been together for a long time there is a risk of taking your partner for granted, but you need to show them the same kind of appreciation today as you showed them when you first started dating.
9. Don’t Stress about ‘the One’
Just take every day as it comes, don’t drive yourself mad worrying about whether he is ‘the one’ or not. There is no cinematic moment of clarity on things like this, you’ll know over time if he is the one, don’t rush things.