17 Questions You Need Answered before You Move in with Your Man ...

By Neecey

17 Questions You Need Answered before You Move in with Your Man ...

So exciting! You can’t wait to get packing. Moving in with your boyfriend is an amazing step in your relationship but don’t get caught up in the moment. Slow down and breathe because there are a few things to consider before you cross the threshold. You might need a notepad to answer the questions but they need to be asked.

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1

The L-Word?

The L-Word? Have you even told each other that you love each other yet? If not, then moving in together feels like a hasty step.

UPD:

Expressing love goes far beyond the three little words "I love you"; it’s shown in our actions every day. But verbal affirmation is equally important. It’s a declaration that you’re on the same emotional page. Without acknowledging this deep connection, it might be premature to start merging your lives under one roof. Think of it as a foundational block of your relationship. If it’s missing, ask yourself if you're ready to tackle the daily realities of shared living. Love is key, and saying it out loud reinforces that you’re both emotionally invested enough for such a big step.

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Will It Last?

Will It Last? Before you make a big life decision, sit down and really consider if you think this relationship is going to be the one that lasts forever.

3

Is It Right for Me and Us?

Is It Right for Me and Us? How much of a change will it be? It makes sense to cut some costs and move in together if you are staying at his apartment every night anyway!

4

How do You End Arguments?

How do You End Arguments? Are you good at putting a fight behind you? That is essential if you are living together and cannot necessarily take a few days off from each other.

5

Are the Financials Good?

Are the Financials Good? Are you both in the position to be able to pay your half of the rent every month? You don’t want to have to be the sole provider.

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Do You Fight on Trips?

Do You Fight on Trips? Do you tend to get on each other’s nerves if you have to spend a long amount of time together? This might not be an ideal living situation!

7

Seeing You at Your Worst?

Seeing You at Your Worst? Are you comfortable with letting your boyfriend see you at your very worst? Up until this point you might still have been making a constant effort to look your best when you are together.

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Vice Versa?

Vice Versa? And that goes in the other direction too. Living with a guy can open your eyes to lots of gross stuff. Are you ready to see all of that!?

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Is There a Pet Situation?

Is There a Pet Situation? What is your pert situation like? Do you have a cat that he hates? Does he have a dog that you don’t want to live with? This is all important stuff.

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Compatible Eating Habits?

Compatible Eating Habits? Do you like to eat healthy while he loves nothing more than to order in pizza every night? That could lead to arguments again and again.

11

Is He Tidy?

Is He Tidy? Are you a neat freak? Is it going to be a problem if your boyfriend doesn’t respect the shared living space as much as you do?

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Do You like His Friends?

Do You like His Friends? If you don’t like his friends or how he acts when he around them, it is going to be much harder to avoid them when you are living together and he invites them round for an evening.

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Do You Have an Existing Issue?

Do You Have an Existing Issue? Making the decision to move in together isn’t going to magically fix a relationship problem that you are having. You have to address that first.

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Will He Respect Your Space?

Will He Respect Your Space? We have addressed tidiness, but will he be respectful in the sense of letting you have your own space in the house/apartment? Will you do the same back?

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Can You Rely on Him?

Can You Rely on Him? Can you rely on him not to treat this new chapter like moving back in to a college dorm? He needs to understand that this is a real home, not a permanent romantic vacation.

UPD:

Moving in with your significant other is a huge step in any relationship. It’s not just a matter of packing up and setting up shop in a new home. It’s about two people making a commitment to each other and to the relationship. Before you make the leap, there are a few questions you need to ask yourself and your partner.

One question to ask is: Can you rely on him? Moving in together is a big commitment and it’s important to know that your partner is taking it seriously. Are they treating it like a real home or are they treating it like a permanent romantic vacation? It’s important to make sure that your partner understands the gravity of the situation and is committed to making it work.

Another question to ask is: Are you both financially prepared for this move? Moving in together is a financial commitment and it’s important to make sure that both of you are prepared for the costs associated with it. This includes rent, utilities, groceries, and other household expenses. It’s important to make sure that both of you are on the same page when it comes to finances and that you both feel comfortable with the financial situation.

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Possession Purge?

Possession Purge? Are you both okay with getting rid of some of your stuff so that you don’t have an over-packed new home?

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Loss of Privacy?

Loss of Privacy? Have you come to terms with that fact that you aren’t likely to have much privacy anymore now that you are permanently living with your boyfriend? And the same for him?

You can’t expect the answers to all of these to be positive. This is life, not a Disney movie. But, the answers will either tell you now is not the time for such a step, or highlight potential areas you’ll need to work on.

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Yes, I couldn't agree more. Moving in with your significant other should be an exciting happening which you think through. Absofuckinglove this!

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