Before you sleep with someone new, you should ask him (and even yourself) a few questions. After all, you don't want to end up doing something you regret. According to Shape, make sure you ask these questions before sleeping with him:
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1. Have You Been Tested?
It might be awkward, but an awkward conversation is better than a lifetime with a disease. If he has an STD, you need to know before you decide to sleep with him.
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Discussion around STD testing is crucial for your safety and peace of mind. Even if he seems trustworthy, you can't just take his word for it. Insist on both of you getting tested. This step isn’t about lack of trust; it's about respecting your health and future. Remember, many STDs don't show symptoms immediately, or at all, in some people. Asking about his testing history and recent results is a sign of maturity and smart sexual health practices. Protecting yourself should always come before the fear of an uncomfortable chat.
2. Are You Seeing Anyone else?
You need to know if he considers you his girlfriend, or if he's sleeping with a handful of other girls. Don't assume that you two are serious. You need to ask.
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Understanding the nature of your relationship is crucial before taking such a significant step. Don't shy away from this conversation; it's essential for your emotional well-being and sexual health. Honesty is key, and you deserve transparency. Whether it's a monogamous commitment or something more casual, knowing where you stand helps you make informed choices about your body and heart. Have the courage to ask the hard questions and ensure you're both on the same page before moving forward.
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3. Bad Hair Day, Huh?
This sounds like a ridiculous question, but there's a point to it. It's important to test him by teasing him a little bit. If he has "violent tendencies," then even a little jab like that will set him off. If he's dangerous to be around, you want to know from the start so you can get away.
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When you tease him about something harmless like a bad hair day or his quirky shirt choice, pay attention to how he reacts. Is he playful and lighthearted in return, or does he clam up and get defensive? A guy who can roll with the punches and laugh at himself is not only more fun to be with but also shows he's confident and secure. It's those little interactions that can give you insight into his personality and how he handles everyday situations.
4. Do You like Your Job?
This is a basic question, but you should know the basics about the man you're sleeping with. If he feels like a stranger, sex will be more awkward and uncomfortable.
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Understanding his job satisfaction can also reflect his overall happiness and stability. If he's often stressed out or unhappy with his work, it can spill over into your relationship, affecting intimacy and connection. Plus, knowing about his passions and career goals can be incredibly sexy and might even lead to deeper, more meaningful conversations post-coital. Remember, his response can open the door to a world of conversation topics and help you gauge where he is in life – and whether his path aligns with yours.
5. What Are My Expectations?
Some of the questions shouldn't be directed at him. They should be directed at yourself. Ask yourself what you want from him. Figure out if you're only looking for sex, or if you want a real relationship.
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Understanding your own desires is pivotal. Are you seeking a passionate fling, or is your heart set on something deeper that paves the way for emotional intimacy and a committed partnership? Reflect on whether you crave the thrill of casual encounters or if you're yearning for the long-term connection that comes with sharing life's journey. Balancing your needs with your desires can clarify what you're stepping into, ensuring you're true to yourself, no matter where the night leads.
6. Will I Be Okay if I Never See Him Again?
Here's another one to ask yourself. After all, some men will leave after they get what they want from you. If your man does that, will you be okay? If not, then you might want to hold off on having sex.
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