7 Reasons Why It's Okay if You Haven't Been in a Relationship Yet ...

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I spent a lot of years thinking of all the reasons why I hadn't yet had a relationship, and I think worrying about why you haven’t been in a relationship yet is actually really common. A lot of the people I went to school with had been dating since they were 13. I didn't get my first boyfriend until I was 18 - that's a significant difference, and a whole lot of time spent worrying. There can be so much pressure on you at school, from friends, other classmates, all the magazines and TV programmes where the women seem to date pretty much as soon as they've got their first training bra - but there are so many reasons why you shouldn't worry if you haven't been in a relationship yet.

1. Who Cares if Other People Are Doing It?

One of the main reasons people worry if they haven’t been in a relationship is because it can feel like everyone else is, was or got close to it. Looking back now, I realise that I was by no means the only person left at my school who hadn't had a boyfriend; I just worried about it often enough so that was how it felt. Try to get some perspective - there's absolutely no way you're the only one who isn't 'normal.' And those that do have relationships? Who cares? You don't have to do something just because it’s what other people are doing - TRUST ME.

Stop Worrying and Enjoy Yourself

Comments:

Heather Jensen
Exactly! :) Thank you for the comment!
Heather Jensen
I'm so glad! Remember, it's not you!
Maria V
Honestly this is extremely helpful, ha. I thought there was something wrong with me. I'm 16 and haven't had a boyfriend, been kissed, or anything but really, now that I think about it, I don't need mo...
Susana
All my friends had boyfriends, and I felt a lot of pressure, i'm only 14 an after I read this I realize that I'm just not ready, thank you!!!!
Nestine Olidan
Funny I was thinking about this yesterday aha 16 and still haven't had a boyfriend but I understand now I wouldn't have time for one anyway haaa
Nicole
Going on 21 and never been in a relationship ...been feeling kind of down about it because the last guy I started to date just disappeared so I keep thinking there's something wrong with me but this article helps a lot!
Nnedi
@Michelle Carrick sameeee haven't had a relationship this article really make you think why the rush. 😊
Nnedi
@Halley u will soon Halley when the rite person comes along :)
Nnedi
@Serenie Ngooi soooo true
Nnedi
Really love this article .. Bless her I haven't found one yet. The ones I see ain't really my cup of tea :)
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