Dating Again after a long term relationship can be hard. Whether you divorced your spouse or broke up with a long term partner, getting back into the swing of things is more than just difficult. It can be downright nerve-wracking, even scary. When you start dating again, it's not like the whole “get back up on the horse” cliché; getting back into the dating game after many years out of it is like entering a whole new world. You have to take things slow and ease. Here are some great tips for dating again after a long, serious relationship that can really help.
1. Don't Go into Details
When you start dating again, you're bound to wonder how many details you should give out to the person you're seeing. Sure, he or she can know you just broke up with a long term partner or got divorced. However, don't rush to divulge every little detail. Vent with your friends. Don't talk about your experiences with someone knew right away. You probably don't want to hear about their ex, and it's not good to talk too much about yours right out of the gate.
2. Don't Pretend
It's absolutely vital to be yourself when you start seeing new people. Don't pretend to be someone you aren't. You might decide to reinvent yourself in terms of what you want, but don't try to change who you are because you think you'll meet more people. Love yourself for who you are and you'll attract plenty of great men or women.
3. Talk to Your Single Friends
One of the hardest parts about dating again is actually participating in the dating game once more. If you've been in a relationship for a long time, you might feel rusty. Rather than getting nervous or feeling insecure, get tips from your single friends. Talk to many different friends to get different perspectives, and remember that only you know what dating tips you'll be comfortable following.
When you're ready to start seeing other people, start out having fun. Feel free to experiment with dating different personality types. Your own preferences may have changed during the course of your relationship, so this time around, feel free to explore different options.
5. Be Interested
You have to be interested in your date, too. Sometimes you might go out with someone just to sort of get your feet wet just because you want to see what it's like to be dating again. You might be worried about what to talk about, how to come across as interesting, and so on, but don't forget to show interest yourself.
6. Do What Feels Right
Do what you feel comfortable. When it comes to ending the date, if you want to just share a kiss or spend the night with your new date, it's entirely up to you. If there's chemistry, do what feels comfortable. If there's no spark, end the date amicably and chalk it up to experience.
7. Take Your Time
The most important tip to remember when you start dating again is to take your time. Don't rush yourself into anything you might not be ready to experience. Don't feel like you have to jump right back into another long term relationship either. If you want to keep things loose and casual, that's fine. As long as you're comfortable, it's all good.
When you're ready to start dating again, these tips should really help. Don't feel like you have to make up for lost time in an instant. Keep things casual if you want to, and don't start looking for another long term relationship if you aren't ready. Remember most of all that dating again can be lots of fun, especially if you don't put pressure on yourself. How did you start dating again after you ended a serious relationship?
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