--- title: "Rules to Follow when Getting Back with an Ex ..." description: "COOL YOUR JETS; DON’T VIEW IT as a NEW RELATIONSHIP; BE REAL about YOUR TIME APART; And WHY YOU WANT to GET BACK TOGETHER; COVER OLD ISSUES; More ..." url: "https://love.allwomenstalk.com/rules-to-follow-when-getting-back-with-an-ex/" category: "love" last_updated: "2026-06-02" --- # Rules to Follow when Getting Back with an Ex ... It's not a crime to get back together with your ex. However, sometimes it can be a huge mistake. But if you have your heart set on going back to him, there are a few things you should know. According to [Women's Health](https://www.womenshealthmag.com/relationships/a19950378/rules-for-getting-back-together/), here's what you should do when getting back with an ex: ## 1. COOL YOUR JETS ![COOL YOUR JETS](https://img.allw.mn/content/w1/yk/x6ooj155568e867357edb070217858_500x242.gif) Even though you've already dated, it doesn't mean you need to skip past the initial stages of the relationship. Don't rush into things. Get used to spending time together again before you move in together or get engaged. ## 2. DON’T VIEW IT as a NEW RELATIONSHIP ![DON’T VIEW IT as a NEW RELATIONSHIP](https://img.allw.mn/content/e3/nn/iu576jmi568e86737036d436775524_500x200.gif) He's not a totally different person than the guy you used to date. “It is important for a couple to build on the past relationship, warts and all." That means you should talk about the issues you've had in the past and try to resolve them. ## 3. BE REAL about YOUR TIME APART ![BE REAL about YOUR TIME APART](https://img.allw.mn/content/am/w6/oc88qier568e86739871c127285414_500x230.gif) It might hurt to hear, but it's important for you to know what he did during your time apart. Ask him if he dated anyone else or slept with anyone else. And, of course, you should return the favor by telling him what you did. ## 4. And WHY YOU WANT to GET BACK TOGETHER ![And WHY YOU WANT to GET BACK TOGETHER](https://img.allw.mn/content/oc/y9/qx3oazci568e8673ea489249825008_500x230.gif) If you only want to be with him, because you're suddenly lonely, then you should resist the urge to talk to him. However, if you two have real reasons for wanting to get back together, it's a sign you should move forward. ## 5. COVER OLD ISSUES ![COVER OLD ISSUES](https://img.allw.mn/content/ac/ad/wu4iebie568e867449ac9928961828_500x210.gif) If you broke up, because he was friends with an ex you didn't like, you need to talk to him about the issue right away. If he's still friends with her, then you're going to have to deal with it. Otherwise, don't date him again. ## 6. KNOW WHAT YOU’RE GETTING into ![KNOW WHAT YOU’RE GETTING into](https://img.allw.mn/content/js/pb/zlw7j3hf568e867498100563685237_500x281.gif) He might've changed a little, but he didn't change a lot. That means your relationship will be pretty much the same as it was the first time around. Can you handle that? Are you planning on getting back with an ex? ## Related Posts - [finding yourself after loss](https://inspiration.allwomenstalk.com/how-to-find-yourself-again-after-a-loss/) - [message for a friend going through a breakup](https://lifestyle.allwomenstalk.com/dealing-with-the-devastation-of-a-friend-breakup/) - [best breakup lines](https://love.allwomenstalk.com/what-cliche-breakup-lines-really-mean/) - [i miss you when youre gone](https://love.allwomenstalk.com/things-your-ex-will-miss-after-youre-gone/) - [break up rules](https://love.allwomenstalk.com/breakup-rules-a-woman-should-always-follow/) - [funny break up cakes](https://love.allwomenstalk.com/use-these-cakes-to-break-up-with-your-boyfriend/) - [what to do when your ex texts you](https://love.allwomenstalk.com/what-to-do-when-your-ex-texts-you/) - [missing an ex](https://love.allwomenstalk.com/things-you-wont-miss-about-your-ex-once-hes-gone/) - [short story alcohol](https://love.allwomenstalk.com/short-story-exes-and-alcohol/) - [different types of heartache](https://love.allwomenstalk.com/different-types-of-heartbreak-women-can-experience/) - [8 Tips on How to Be Friends with Your Ex ...](https://love.allwomenstalk.com/tips-on-how-to-be-friends-with-your-ex/) - [10 Ways to Be Friends with Your Ex ...](https://allwomenstalk.com/10-ways-to-be-friends-with-your-ex/) ## Site Information - [Main page](https://allwomenstalk.com) - [Contact us](https://allwomenstalk.com/contact.html) - [HTML article](https://love.allwomenstalk.com/rules-to-follow-when-getting-back-with-an-ex/)