What is age when it comes to love? Actually, it’s a lot. According to a study by Emory University, the best age difference is a year. More than that and it can up your chances of divorce, although it’s important to realize other factors have to be accounted for, too. But not to worry! These’re some very helpful tips for coping with an age difference in a relationship.
1. Be Sure of Your Feelings
A good question to ask yourself when you’re getting into a relationship with an age difference is how are you truly feeling? Do some deep soul searching and make sure you’re not making a decision to date someone older or younger out of plain old curiosity. Another thought to consider is that you could be partially attracted to them out of rebellion against your parents if you’re still a teenager or young adult. It’s common to want to forge your own path as a young adult! But don’t take that path purely out of rebellion. 😣
2. Have a Comment Ready when Friends and Family Express Concern 🙉
If you’ve entered a relationship where there’s an age difference then it’s best to be prepared for some comments about it. My husband and I have a 10 year age difference and it works great for us. But we had to field some comments in the beginning of our relationship too. We always told people the truth when we were questioned; that we loved the age difference and each other.
3. Be Aware of Your Age Difference
I’m going to be honest here. While I love being 10 years younger than my husband and wouldn’t have it any other way, there’re times when our age difference is a factor. One such example is his taste in clothing. He generally tends toward an older style than I would choose for him. You’ll probably find similar examples in your relationship.
4. Focus on the Positives of Having an Age Difference 🌞
Dating someone who’s older than you gives you the advantage of having someone close to you who’s wiser and a little more experienced with life. They can offer you valuable advice and insight. On the flip side, dating someone who’s younger can remind you to relax and have fun. We tend to be a little less inclined to enjoying life as we age. Dating someone younger can help with that.
5. Agree on What Matters
There’re going to be differences in every relationship. That’s to be expected because you’re two separate individuals. But what matters is that you agree on what matters. Having an age difference can be a little tricky. You don’t need more stacked against you. Make sure you agree on things like shared morals and goals in life.
6. Find Common Interests 🎳
Finding common interests can help your relationship have more security when there’s an age difference between you. Since you can be in different places in life due to your age difference, this matters a lot. Maybe you both love biking, playing cards or even share a few favorite tv shows. It can be anything! And if you’re struggling in this, be open to finding new activities to explore together.
7. Trust Your Instincts
Lastly, trust your instincts. They’ll rarely ever steer you wrong. If you know that this person is right for you then go for it. While you have a little more against you, it can absolutely work. My husband and I are coming upon our 13th wedding anniversary and we’re still very much in love. A happy ending can happen for your relationship too. 🏰
These’re some tips to help you have the best relationship when there’s an age difference. How far apart are you and your partner? I’d love to hear from you!