Even if you like a guy, it won't always be worth it to text him back. Sometimes, you should leave your messages unanswered. How do you tell when you should write out a reply, and when you should leave it be? Here's a little test by Cosmopolitan that'll tell you if you should text him back or not:
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1. What Did He Text You?
If he texted you, asking if you were up, he's probably looking for a late night booty call. If he texted you, only saying hey, then you should only respond if you have something to talk about, because he clearly doesn't. And, of course, if he texts you something personal and sweet, make sure you write back!
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If he texted you, asking if you were up, he's probably looking for a late night booty call. If he texted you, only saying hey, then you should only respond if you have something to talk about because he clearly doesn't. And, of course, if he texts you something personal and sweet, make sure you write back! However, if his messages are persistent and entirely noncommittal, it's likely he's not worth your time. Remember, a guy genuinely interested will make an effort to communicate meaningfully and consistently. Trust your instincts and don't settle for half-hearted attempts.
2. Is It the Same Thing He Always Texts You?
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If it's the same exact text as always, then your conversation is probably going to go the same way as always. That can be pretty darn boring. However, if he texts you something fresh and fun, answer him back!
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3. If Your Friend Told You about the Guy You're Texting, Would You Tell Her to Text Him Back?
If your answer is no, then he's clearly a player, or at least a waste of time. Of course, if you'd want her to text him, then you should text him yourself.
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If your answer is no, then he's clearly a player, or at least a waste of time. Of course, if you'd want her to text him, then you should text him yourself. Remember, it's essential to value your own time and energy by avoiding those who don't reciprocate genuine interest. Don't let the excitement of potential romance blind you to clear signs of disinterest or red flags. After all, you deserve to invest your efforts in someone who actually appreciates and values your attention. Listen to your instincts, and don't be afraid to walk away if something feels off.
4. What's the Best Thing That Could Come out of Your Texting Him Back?
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If you know that your conversation will end with plans for a date, or will at least end with you happy over your flirty conversation, then go for it. However, if you know it'll leave you disappointed, then don't even bother.
5. Do You Want to Talk to Him?
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If you do, then just text him already! It's that simple.
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Comments
Kelly260479: If he texts hey maybe he's shy & trying to start a convo?
Emma: @kaya that is exactly what's happening with me. When I talk with my crush, I always start the conversation. But, some guys are too shy to go up to the girl and start the conversation or text her first
Miinkaa: There was this older guy who added me on facebook (i followed him on instagram like 2 years ago) i have seen him live and he is SO DAMN FINE. So i wrote to him on fb and he didnt even reply until 22 hours later and he WAS ACTIVE. After that i took it as he didnt want to talk, what do u think?
Claire: So what happens when he is always the one to initiate it but then when I reply he always takes at least a week to reply back? Each message he sends is thoughtful and nice but why does he act like he never actually wanted to speak even though he started it?
bitsy: @emma @kaya girls! I promise you, even if a guy is 'too shy' to talk to a girl, if he really likes her, he WILL make a point to contact her! If you guys are having that problem with your crushes, then don't talk to them anymore! They are NOT worth your time, I promise you!
Sanchez: What if you are the one always initiating the conversation and he never starts it? I feel like this is a red flag. Should I take the hint and move on?
bitsy: @claire @minka guys that do that (both examples) are NOT worth your time! Seriously! I've learned it multiple times, if he takes a while to respond, he is NOT interested! Even if he seems like he is, he only wants attention- I guarantee it. If a guy wants to talk, believe me, he will make the first move! Think about it!
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