You thought you had found a guy worthy of being your boyfriend, but lately you are beginning to see the signs a new relationship isn't working. There are certain things that scream a relationship is headed for doom. Hopefully the following list enlightens you on the signs a new relationship isn't working, so you don’t waste your time on the wrong guy.
The first couple months of a relationship are typically called the honeymoon stage, because like newlyweds, you can’t get enough of each other. This is the time when you should be deliriously happy with your man. One of the warning signs a new relationship isn't working is when you aren't happy with him or where the relationship is heading.
He doesn't make an effort to spend quality time with you. Quality time is essential for the survival of a relationship because it makes your bond with each other stronger. A good partner knows that his woman should be a main priority in his life. Never chase a guy that doesn't seem interested in the relationship because you are so much better than that.
With all the important things that it takes to make a relationship work, communication is one of the keys to its success. So ask yourself: how easily can you talk to your boyfriend? A warning sign that the two of you aren't compatible is if neither of you are comfortable sharing your feelings with each other. Of course it takes a bit of time to share your innermost secrets, but there’s a problem if you feel like you can’t share your true feelings with him.
Communication is crucial in any relationship, and it can be a major red flag if there are constant communication problems. This can include difficulty expressing oneself, not feeling comfortable sharing personal feelings, or having trouble understanding each other. In fact, a study by the University of Texas found that poor communication was the most common reason for divorce. Additionally, a lack of effective communication can lead to misunderstandings, conflicts, and a breakdown of trust. It's important to address any communication issues early on in a relationship to prevent further problems down the line.
All of us occasionally fantasize about attractive people, like the new visually delicious coworker or the hottie at the coffee shop. Those racy fantasies are usually a blip in our thoughts but when they seem to consume the majority of your thoughts, you should pay attention. If you can’t stop thinking of other guys, it’s your heart’s way of letting you know you aren't happy with your partner.
You should feel like you can be yourself at all times even when the relationship is new. A major red flag is when you feel like you have to act a certain way just to keep your guy happy. You pretend to like things that you don’t, or hide your true feelings just because you fear he will like you less. But the right guy will love every aspect of you so you won’t feel the need to put on an act for him.
If he were the right guy, you would at least tolerate his weird quirks that make you say WTF or huh? Unfortunately this guy’s quirks are making you insane. You might notice you like him less and less each time one of his quirks pop up. If this relationship were meant to work, most of his his quirks would be endearing, funny and cute to you because they are a part of who he is.
It’s time to thoroughly analyze your relationship with a classic pros vs. cons list. Make a list of all the positives and negatives in your relationship. For example, a positive would be if he’s a great listener while a negative would be if he’s constantly accusing you of cheating. Now add up the score. If the negatives win and you feel these are issues that can’t be fixed, its time to walk because you won’t be happy.
If you realize that your current man isn't the one for you, let him go. I know that is be easier said than done, but life is much too short to cheat yourself out of happiness. What are your new relationship red-flags?