Have you ever been in that situation where you are wondering if it's time to end it with a guy or not? Well, I'm here to tell you 6 sure fire signs it's time to walk away. Sometimes we have that inner debate of, "well if he just started doing this", or "if he just went back to doing a, b, or c, then I'd be happy again". Well, I'm here to tell you that if you're having that inner debate, it's usually time to find a new person to spend your time with. Whether the romance is dead, you barely see each other, or he stops making an effort, these six signs it's time to end it!
1. He Doesn’t do Anything Special for Your Birthday
Sad to say this, but there are guys out there who are that dumb and don’t realize your birthday should be a celebration. My poor girlfriend just had a guy she was seriously dating bring her a two buck chuck, and some flowers from Ralphs for her birthday. This is after she had to call him out because he wanted to watch a baseball game, instead of coming to celebrate her birthday with her. I know guys are dumb, so I try to give them the benefit of the doubt, but when we actually call you out for your idiotness, we expect you to show up for us. If a guy isn’t treating you like a princess on your special day, he has got to go!
2. He Stops Making an Effort
A guy definitely puts on a front in the beginning and will try to “woo” you, as he should. But then either that phase starts to diminish or it just completely stops. Granted, we don’t expect him to constantly be trying to sweep us off our feet, but we don’t expect him to literally stop giving a shit. If you are putting more effort into a relationship than the guy is, then it’s time to end it. Also girls, it should always be the other way around. A guy should always be putting in just a little bit more often than the girl. Plus, why do you want to spend your time with someone who doesn’t make an effort to be with you? Answer is, you don’t!
3. The Sex Stops
This one is a big deal. If the sex stops, and you and your partner talk about why, and then it picks back up, you’re in the clear. But if sex in your relationship stops, and for a long time, maybe you guys are better off as friends. It may be time to end it and find someone else that sparks your “interest”.
4. The Romance Dies
If a guy starts killing it in the romance department, it’s time to move on. I don’t mean “killin it” in the millennial way of “slayin it”, I mean literally murdered, and buried it, and has not brought it back to life. Romance is such a great part of being with someone. Whether that is having a nice dinner prepared when you get home, surprising you at work, leaving you a sweet note in the morning, or getting you flowers, it is an important gesture and one you deserve! When this stops, or if it never even started, it’s time to end it and find someone else who will do this for you.
5. You Start to Become Less Important
I'm all for men claiming their independence, and us females as well, but when his guy friends become the center of his attention over you, that is not okay. I am all for a guy doing his own thing, having his friends, hanging out by himself when he needs it, because us females need that as well, but when a sports game on television becomes more important than seeing you, things start to get a little hazy. When he rather spend every weekend with his friends and skimp on inviting you out anywhere, this is definitely not ideal. Girls, make sure you’re a priority, and when you’re not, don’t try and beg him to make you important, just walk away. You don’t need to convince a dude to treat you well. That is just something you shouldn’t have to do. So instead, end it!
6. Hanging out Becomes Sparse
Remember when you first start seeing someone and you’re hanging out once or twice a week? Then you start dating them and you’re seeing them three to four times a week? And then you’re in a relationship and it's four to five times a week, maybe six to seven if you’re that type. Well, when it drops back down to one time a week, or even once every two weeks, then it’s time to reevaluate. You should be making time for each other and if he’s not making time for you, then it’s time to definitely bounce. Why be with someone who doesn’t want to see you?