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20 Signs You Are Reading Too Much into Things ...

Learning when you are reading too much into things can actually save you a ton of heartbreak. Do you know the signs to look for when you are reading too much into things? Well girls, I've read way too much into so many things, I'm an expert at spotting when you are reading too much into things, so take a look below and see if any of these signs apply to you!

1 You Become Obsessive Instantly

When your crush says one word to you, do you instantly become obsessive? Do you think that he automatically likes you? Ladies, he could just be, being polite. If you obsess over a look, a word, a smile – instantly, it could be one of the signs you're reading too much into things!

2 You Become Emotionally Attached Instantly

Even if your crush has never said a word to you, but he is talking to other girls and you feel jealous, do you think it could be a sign you're reading too much into things? Becoming instantly emotionally attached to anything that your crush does is hard on not just your emotions, but it can make you get hurt faster!

3 You Take Everything to Heart

Was he busy today and wasn't able to see you? Did you instantly cry and spend most of the day in bed? This could be a sign that you're reading too much into things. Just because he misses one day of seeing you doesn't mean he hates you, it means he's a little busy, that's all!

4 You Dwell on Every Action

Do you find yourself dwelling on every single thing that your crush does? Do you constantly watch his body language with other girls? Do you feel jealous all of the time even though you've never talked to your crush? It could be a sign that maybe, you're becoming a little too intense.

5 You Second-Guess Everything

Girls, I know when I am second-guessing every action of my own that I'm reading too much into things. If you find that you are second-guessing going to that party because he is going to be there or second-guessing an outfit choice because your crush, you tend to lose yourself a little. So girls, loosen up and just have fun!

6 Stalk His Facebook

Are you friends with your crush on Facebook? Do you constantly stalk him and figure out where he is checking in? If you're constantly watching everywhere your crush goes and everything he says and you take it personal, it could definitely mean that you're reading too much into things.

7 You Allow Everything He Says Gnaw at You

Did he mention that he had a good weekend but he didn't see you? Did he say that he had a good time at dinner with a friend that didn't include you? Do you allow everything that he says gnaw at your insides? Ladies, that's a sign that you might be reading way too much into his words. Just relax and let him tell you a little about himself and his plans!

8 A Smile Means He Loves You

Never, ever assume that a smile is anything more than a smile. Do you automatically think that just because a guy smiles at you, he instantly is attracted and likes you? That's definitely a sign that you're reading too much into things.

9 You Dissect Every Conversation

So you've finally had a conversation with your crush and now you are dissecting not only everything that he said, but everything that you said. Not only can this make you twist and turn the words, but it proves that you are reading way too much into things! Just let things happen ladies, it'll be so much better!

10 You Agonize over Every Gesture

He brushed against you when he walked passed, he accidentally touched your hand as he passed you – do you agonize over these gestures? Do you turn them over and over in your head and convince yourself that he likes you? This could absolutely be one of the ways you are reading too much into things!

11 You Pester His Friends for Clues

Even though you are not exactly friends with his friends, you constantly pester them for clues as to how he feels about you. Ladies, this can get annoying but also, you might be reading too much into your own feelings. If you really want to know how your crush feels about you, you've got to talk to him!

12 Everything He Says is about You

Facebook and Twitter are great social media websites to share your every thought – your crush can do the same and it doesn't always have to be all about you! Just because he said he had a great time last night in his status and you were there, it might not mean that it was because you were there.

13 You over-Analyze Everything

Do you constantly think about every single word that your crush has said to you and play it over and over in your head? Does this twist and turn the words into something hurtful rather than just a conversation? That would be a sign that you're reading way too much into things!

14 Every Outing is a Date

Just because your crush asks you to hang out with a bunch of your mutual friends does not automatically mean that it's a date. If you're thinking that every invitation is a date, it's definitely a sign you're reading too much into things!

15 Every “No” is a Rejection

Let's say that you ask your crush out to the beach or even just to hang out and he states that he has plans. This doesn't mean that he is rejecting you specifically, it means that he has plans right now, but maybe another time. It's not always about rejection ladies!

16 You Blow Little Things out of Proportion

Did you crush talk to another girl and now you automatically think that they are a couple? Even the smallest, little thing you blow completely out of proportion? That's definitely one of the signs that you're reading too much into things!

17 You Expect Perfection

Do you have extremely high expectations of your crush? Do you get extremely upset if your plans don't go exactly the way that they are supposed to? It could be because you expect perfection and ladies, nobody is perfect!

18 You Assume Too Much

Do you constantly assume that your crush is talking about you, thinking about you and expecting a text from you? Well ladies, that might not always be the case! Remember, assuming is never a good thing to do!

19 Confrontations over Non-Issues

Have you made up a bunch of scenarios in your head and then confront your crush with them? Ladies, if you are constantly confronting your crush over something that is so small and a non-issue, that could be a sign that you're reading too much into things!

20 You Search for Hidden Meanings

Finally, do you search for a hidden meaning in everything your crush says? He states he has to go see his parents, do you translate that into he doesn't want to see you? Sometimes he could just be busy, just remember that!

There you have ladies! The top 20 ways to tell if you're reading too much into things! What other ways can you tell if you're reading too much into things?

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Krista I know my crush likes me. We have expressed this already. However I still read too much into things. I was talking to him on Facebook this morning while he is in Germany and I sent him a message about when his plane lands on Friday. It shows that he "saw" it but he didn't respond. Of course, I thought I probably shouldn't have asked him, he thinks I'm being too nosy. When in fact he has said he misses me and can't wait to see me. I get so crazy but I like him so much
Anon Oh, and I mentioned something I liked in passing, and then when I left he gave me a small gift, which was the thing I said I liked. Which I found so thoughtful and sweet, even if it was only as friends, it was still a really kind thing to do. And he kept making jokes about, "well, we didn't have time for that, so you'll just have to come back". So I felt like maybe he felt the same way, BUT maybe I'm just reading too much into things and seeing things the way I want them to be, and not how they really are. What do you think?
- Heather Hi Anon! I think that he does like you, he might be shy. Up the flirting and see what happens! :)
Anon So here's my recent "reading too much into things" experience. I really like a friend who lives 2 hours away. I went to visit him last weekend and we had such a great time, just walking and talking, although nothing more than friends. But there were definitely a few times when he put his hand on my shoulder, or stood a little bit closer than he needed to, I felt. And we talked about anything and everything, really easily. Then he spontaneously said he'd like to visit me this weekend. Great! Except I haven't heard anything from him since - I don't even know if he's still coming. The thing is, he does live in a genuinely remote area, where you don't get phone reception unless you walk to a specific place, and is in a shared house with only one computer. However, I sent a message 3 days ago (fb says he hasn't seen the message) and text, but I still haven't heard anything. I know I'm totally reading too much into things by thinking about it at all, because maybe it's just hard for him to have reception or whatever. However...if he actually liked me, he'd just walk to the place with reception and text, right? So maybe I misread the signs...argh. I hate getting all crazy about a guy, thank god for girlfriends who are just easy to talk to and love you no matter what!
Anon I tend to think I'm quite grounded, and don't go all crazy over boys. And yet still, I've definitely done some of these things at one time or another! Heather, you give such kind and thoughtful replies...anyone who has you as a friend is a lucky girl! :)
Alyssa Hey! I'm 14... and I like someone but I don't know if it's right to like him because I am only 14 and "society" says it's wrong but I need opinions.. I am not "in love" I just think I like him..
- Heather Hi Alyssa! My mom fell in love at 14 too, so I think it is possible, but have you talked to him? Do you hang out together?
Jade Whenever I get a crush on a guy, which is actually really rare...I instantly become obsessive! I really need to stop because not only does it drain me but I think it scares the guy away. I think about him 24/7, and can't look at any other guy. Please help! Why do I fall SO hard?
- Heather Hi Jade! How are you? I think that if you know that about yourself, you'll be able to slow it down a little bit. Just remember that you are like that and you'll be able to slow it down. Don't read too much into things!
Anonymous I'm 13 which is way to young to be in love, I know, but I've known this girl for a while and we've been really close friends. I've always liked this girl, but have never had the courage to tell her how I feel about her, but last week she said she loved me but I sorta froze up and didn't say anything and now 2 weeks later shes still shes still my friend but i'm not sure if shes gone of the idea. What should I do? How do i know if she likes me or not?
- Heather Hi! I think that first love can happen at any age at all! I think that she does like you and I think that you need to talk to her a little bit more. :) Maybe see if you can hang out casually together!
Alexandra Hi heather. So I used to have this good girl friend(not girlfriend just a friend that's a girl) but we got in a big fight and we don't really talk anymore. The thing is I really like her brother... I think a lot of others think that we both really like each other but were basically just distant friends because I don't want to advance things if his family doesn't like me... What should I do?
- Heather Hi Alex! I'd say that you should try to talk to him about it. Do you two talk a lot at all? Leave it up to him and see what he thinks. You shouldn't center yourself around a family that may or may not like you.
Katy So I know this guy at my church that I have a huge crush on. I've had it for almost three years now. He is super nice. He does a few of the things that the tips that a guy likes you does. He'll try to sit close to me. He'll do something funny/stupid and smile at me and I just roll my eyes and laugh. I wonder if I am reading too much into it but I don't really know. We also have had these weird incidents. I can sense when he's going to get hurt or danger is near him. It's happened more than once. Once I had this terrible feeling that danger was near him and the next day I found out a guy broke into his sister's car while it was sitting in their driveway and he was home alone. And one time I had that terrible feeling and then I found out he sprained his ankle. This is totally weird and I really don't know what to do. Please help!
- Heather Hi Katy! It sounds a bit like you are linked to him mentally! That's so great! I'd say that you should up the flirting a little bit with him and see exactly how he reacts. :)
Angela Wow, I'm guilty but I will do some serious self examination of myself
- Heather I think that we are all a little guilty of doing these things sometimes!
Molly I'm not sure if I do any of these. I may have done one or two of them like ONE time... Does that mean I'm reading too much into things? I honestly can't tell if this guy likes me or not. I'm good at noticing when someone likes someone else, but never when someone likes me.
- Heather Hi Molly! I'd say that if he is constantly flirting with you and constantly around you, touching you, those are all signs that he likes you!
Lily hello, first of all: you made an amazing article/website. But i think i need your advice. There's this guy i like but i'm not sure he likes me too. my friends tell me he does but i'm still not convinced. We don't see each other a lot but when we do we always talk. He's always friendly to me and asks me if I need something to drink and the las time we saw each other he even told me I was looking pretty. So i guess those are good things. I also have the feeling that he looks at me differently then he looks at other people. There's like a sparkle in his eyes and the smile he gives me is always extremely big. My friend told me also that she definetly saw he was acting differently around me. Another positiv thing is that when we're talking and his friends come around he says shortly hi, but then starts talking to me again. For all those signs i would think he likes me back. But then again there are other things that make me doubt. Like the fact that we only talk when we meet. He never starts talking to me on facebook, even when we're both online. And i think that's strange. If he likes me and he isn't to shy to talk to me when we meet, why wouldn't he just start a conversation on facebook. I just don't understand. Please tell me what you think about this! Am I reading to much into this? thank you!
- Rob @Lily,Hey Lily I'm Rob, and I understand what you are thinking, because throughout high school (even now in college) I've walked in your shoes. I don't think your thinking too much about it. Your looking before you leap, which i truly respect, but sometimes we have to take risks. I've had many crushes I regret not pursuing because of uncertainty.
- Heather Aww!! Thank you so much! I'm so glad that you like the posts! :) I'd say that you need to talk to him a little bit. I know that he's shy on Facebook -- I think that's all it is. Maybe flirt with him a bit and see how he responds.
anonymous yeah guys are confusing im having that problem with the guy i think i like, and according to this! I deff like him! AH. but im trying so hard not to because it will never work. although we text all the time, i can never really get him to talk much to me and we hang out like once every 2 weeks and he said he wanted to hangout more of like a weekly basis. maybe hes pushing me away because he's scared of getting too close, we were doing this casual thing but idk
- Heather Guys are confusing, but if you talk to him and maybe try to figure out exactly why he is scared -- it might be a good idea! :)
Rachel You know, Heather, I find that a lot of your articles have repeats of certain "signs", "ways", etc., but one might be just a more general take on another more specific one.. it gets repetitive. For example, "searching for hidden meaning" or "assuming" could encompass "when you think the Facebook statuses are about you". Otherwise, your articles are quite enjoyable--just redundant.
- Heather @Rachel, Thanks for the feedback!
Anonymous All of you ladies deserve a man who adores you as much as you do him. Don't lose hope and don't settle - the right person is out there!
- Heather Totally true!! A girl should never settle for someone, she should choose Mr. Right! :)
- Sheila Great words sweetie! :) Thanks for stopping by!
Anonymous How do you tell whether a guy isn'n talking to you cause he doesn't like you or cause he's in a different time zone?
- Heather I completely agree with Sheila! If he really, really likes you, then he'll either stay up late or get up early to talk to you.
- Sheila Hey sweetie, I think if he really was interested, he'd find a way to talk to you. Even if you don't chat, don't you think he'd at least mail you? Sorry hun!
mo Yeah, I definitely agree with all of these. I did most of these and guess what? He was not the least bit interested. All females, heed this advice!
- Heather @mo, awe, I'm so sorry it didn't work out for you Mo but thanks for stopping by and sharing!
Ayanah Lool ! I used to do some of those and I realized that the guy didnt even like me... Yeah, painful. :/
- Heather I'm so sorry Ayanah! It hard be really hard to tell if a guy likes you are not. :)
- Anonymous @Ayanah, same here my recent crush doesn't even like me :(

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