Do I like Him or Just the Idea of Him? Find out Here ...


Do I like Him or Just the Idea of Him? Find out Here ...
Do I like Him or Just the Idea of Him? Find out Here ...

Whether you’re in a relationship with a guy or you simply like a guy, there should usually be a point in the relationship where you step back and evaluate your feelings for him. You need to ask yourself, do I like him or just the idea of him? If you start to worry that you may just like the idea of him rather than him as a person, consider these telltale signs the next time you find yourself thinking about it to save both of you some heartache from continuing a dead end relationship.

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You Didn’t Start to like Him until He Liked You

I think that one of the first signs that you just like the idea of someone is if you had no romantic feelings for him until you were made aware of his feelings for you. That could be a sign that your feelings from him stem from the fact that he likes you which isn't fair to either of you. If you only like him because he liked you then you clearly like the idea of a relationship better than the guy you're in one with.


This article provides insight into how to tell if you truly like someone or are only attracted to the idea of being with them. It explains that if you didn't start to like someone until they expressed their feelings for you, it could be a sign that you are only attracted to the idea of being with them. The article also cautions that this isn't a fair situation for either person and that it may be more of an indication that you are more interested in the idea of having a relationship than the person you are in one with. Additionally, it suggests that if you are unsure of your feelings, it may be helpful to take some time to think about why you are attracted to the person in the first place. Other signs that you may only like the idea of a relationship include feeling more excited about the idea of being in one than the person themselves, or feeling more interested in the idea of a relationship than the person you are in one with.


The Thought of Being with Him is Unappealing

If the thought of being with him- even just hanging out- freaks you out or sounds unappealing, you probably like the idea of him more than the person. Stop wasting both your time and move on from that situation.


Reflect on the reasons behind your discomfort. Is it his behavior, his interests, or simply the energy you feel around him that's off-putting? Trust your gut instincts. If you consistently dread interactions and find excuses to avoid spending time together, these are strong indicators that your attraction is superficial. Remember, a genuine connection should bring excitement and a sense of comfort, not a feeling of obligation or unease. It's okay to let go of a fantasy to make room for a relationship that truly resonates with you.


You Start Noticing You Have Nothing in Common

When you take a step back and look at your relationship to ask yourself do I like him, you also need to look at if you have anything in common. If you do, are they interests that one of you has developed from the other person? If you had so few common interests before the relationship began, you’re probably more in love with the idea of him than your boyfriend himself.


Having shared interests creates a foundation for bonding and engaging in activities together. However, if every attempt at shared hobbies or conversations feels forced or fleeting, this may signal a lack of genuine compatibility. Reflect on the moments you spend together—are these times enjoyable because of his presence or merely because you're attached to the notion of companionship? Take notice if the topics you discuss or the events you attend are truly enjoyable for both of you, or if it's becoming a one-sided affair where you're sacrifing your own likes just to maintain a facade of harmony.


You Don’t Really Know Him

If the guy you like isn’t someone you really know, but rather someone you’ve admired from afar, you probably love the idea of him more than the person himself. You really can’t be in love with someone you know on a fairly impersonal basis. You have to get to know him firsthand to know for sure.


You’re Trying to Change Him

If you’ve noticed that you’re constantly trying to change him to better fit the kind of person you want, you’re in love with the idea of him. If you really loved him, you wouldn’t be trying to turn him into someone he’s not because he’d be exactly what you wanted, flaws and all.


You’re Happier when He’s Not There

If you don’t like spending time with him, why are you with him? You’re not in the right relationship if you ask yourself do I like him and then realize you don't like spending time with him.. You should want to spend as much time with him as you possibly can not excited when you can’t be together.


You Love Being in Love

If you’re someone who just loves being in love you may love the idea of him more than him as a whole. If you're with him only to be in love, you need to cut him loose and re-evaluate your relationship.

How are you sure that you’re actually in love vs. just in love with the idea of someone? Let me know in the comments!

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ugh. the first one is definitely what happened to me and this guy who recently told me he liked me and I started to like him but I have a lot of things in common with him that id never think I would. I mean, we're so different from perspective but he's a real down-to-earth guy.

Having nothing in commun does it really mean you're not in love with that person? bcoz having just a few things in commun may have a positive impact on the relationship to make it mysterious!

This article is spot on!

Great Article very intersection really got me thinking now!

Just got out of a three year relationship and this is excatly the beginning of our relationship

This article just prevented me from doing something stupid.. Thank you!! ♡

Hi everyone! I love seeing people engage in my posts. I know not every situation is the same-a lot of my writing (like other authors) is about personal experience. These are simply my two cents. :) use them to pay the bills or not! Haha

I don't think I need a guide to tell me if I'm in love thanks anyway lol

I think, the way you may know if youre really inlove, is when you just dont know why you love him. It's like, the reason for loving is loving without reason. Youre just so into him whathever he do. And if youre far away in this, you just love the idea of him. Oh jeez.

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