Long distance relationships are tough, because you rarely get to see the other person. Even with the help of Skype and cell phones, it can be difficult to sustain a healthy relationship. If you're worried about yours, here are some signs that the fun is coming to an end:
You start to notice that he doesn’t reply to your text messages, calls and e-mails. It seems like he can’t even be bothered to contact you. When he does talk to you, the conversation is short and lacks quality. This change usually means your boyfriend is losing interest in the relationship.
He is full of excuses when you suggest using webcams or a messenger program so you can spend some time together online. He will turn you down with various excuses like he is too busy, too tired or already has plans for that evening. If you have to plead with him to hang out with you, you are definitely in a dying long distance relationship. He would make spending time with you a priority if he wanted to continue the relationship,
If you bring this particular subject up with him, he will dismiss your feelings and be unwilling to talk about it. Your boyfriend should do everything he can to make you feel cherished and loved even if he is far away. If it seems like you are taking a backseat to other priorities in his life, maybe its time to let go of him.
A long distance couple frequently talks about the future because the ultimate goal is to live together in the same place one day. One of the biggest signs your long distance relationship is ending is that he doesn’t seem interested in making future plans with you. The awesome conversations about getting married, names of your future kids and where you will both live have completely stopped.
A healthy couple enjoys using many terms of endearment whenever they speak to each other. Not only because its fun but because it can make you feel emotionally closer to one another. He may already have one foot out the door if he stopped calling you silly and sweet nicknames like hunny bunny, baby cakes or love muffin.
Most guys are natural problem solvers so if he shows no interest in improving the current state of affairs, it may signal a dying long distance relationship. If he has really given up on the relationship, he doesn’t feel the need to solve its issues. Don’t force the matter because you can’t make someone love you.
He insists they are just friends but you suspect that there is something fishy going on. When you invite him to come visit you on the weekend, he will say he already has plans with her. This is a neon flashing sign that he has replaced you with someone else. It’s safe to say that he probably won’t mind if you find a substitute for him.
Listen to that nagging inner voice because it will guide you when you feel confused about what to do with your relationship. One of the ultimate signs your long distance relationship is ending is that your inner voice is also telling you that your boyfriend now thinks of you more as a good friend instead of his hot girlfriend that he can’t get enough of. Once he threw you into the friend zone, the relationship ended in his mind.
While not every single couple video chats, most of them do -- it makes you feel like you are right there. If you and your boyfriend constantly video chatted and now, it's nothing -- there's a problem. That means that you've really got to consider that your relationship might be coming to an end.
Do you know most of his friends? Do you know pretty much everyone he hangs out with? Is he suddenly meeting a bunch of new people and hanging out with them constantly ... and you have no idea who they are? That could be a sign that he doesn't want you to know who they are or that part of his life.
How are the visits? Do you have any of the scheduled? Seeing one another, even though you are miles away, is so important. If you don't have anything scheduled, you might want to see if you can get a visit scheduled, just so that you can learn his life.
How is his effort? Does he put forth any of it? Do you feel like he is constantly just slipping away and he is more interested in hanging out with people that are actually right there? This is a sign!
Another sign your LDR is ending is that he has absolutely no interest in your day, your life or what you are doing. He doesn't ask follow up questions and he always seems distracted whenever he is talking to you.
When you're in a long distance relationship, words are incredibly important. Since you can't hug or kiss your partner, you need to show them you care with your words. If your boyfriend used to tell you that he loved you every single day, but refuses to say it now, then something's wrong.
Yes, he's far away, but he should still send you presents for the holidays and your birthday if you can't arrange to hang out in person. If big events come and go without a card from him, he doesn't care enough about you. Unless he has a present waiting for you at home, the relationship is rocky.
When you finally get a chance to visit him, you two should be thrilled! If he looks bored or acts awkward, then there must be a reason behind his strangeness. Maybe he's just shy, because he's used to talking to you over electronics, but maybe his feelings for you have changed.
When you tell a story about a guy that you work with, does your boyfriend flip out? If he gets way too jealous anytime you mention another guy, your relationship won't last long. Jealousy and long distance relationships don't mix well. If he doesn't trust you, it'll be over soon.
Have you started to pay more attention to the attractive men around you? If you've fantasized about kissing a guy you like that actually lives in your town, then you might be tempted to cheat. It'll be easy to get away with, since your boyfriend is so far away, but breaking up with him is the right thing to do.
If your boyfriend deletes you from Facebook or blocks you from seeing another social media site, he's definitely hiding something from you. Since you live so far apart, you can only see his life through electronics. If he's trying to take that away from you, then he probably wants to break up.
Do you find out about his promotion by looking at his status instead of getting an excited phone call? If he tells the entire world his good news before he tells you, then he doesn't think you're all that important. You don't want to be with someone who thinks so low of you.
When you visit, does he introduce you to all his friends or does he make sure to avoid everyone he knows? If he won't take you out of his house, then you might be his side girl that he doesn't want his other girlfriend to run into.
There will always be days when your conversations are a bit bland and repetitive. However, if the conversations have been boring for the past few months, something's wrong. Your whole relationship is about talking, so if you aren't happy while chatting, what's the point of dating?
When it's almost time for your weekly Skype date, do you groan and grumble as you open up your laptop? If talking to your boyfriend feels like more of a chore than a pleasure, there's no point in dating. You want to be with someone who you look forward to talking to.
If he wants children when he's older, but you don't, there could be a problem. Not all couples think about marriage and kids when they're young, but if you're in a long distance relationship, you typically look forward to having a future together. If you can't imagine one, then it's time to call it quits.
Open relationships rarely end well, especially if you start out in a monogamous one. If your boyfriend asks for an open relationship, he's really asking for permission to sleep with someone else. Since she'll be nearby when you're far away, your relationship is bound to end.
You don't see each other often, so when you do you should be dressed to impress. If your boyfriend picks you up at the airport wearing sweatpants and a hoodie, something's fishy. He should be looking his best for you, not like he rolled out of bed and didn't care what he put on.
It's normal to hate being apart from your boyfriend. However, if the pain is less about how much you love him and more about the fact that you can't get pleasured by him, find someone else who can fulfill your needs.
When a long distance boyfriend truly cares about his girl, he’ll put in the love and extra effort required to sustain the relationship. If you are the one doing all the work, you can end up miserable, lonely and emotionally exhausted trying to keep this type of relationship alive. If you see the signs your long distance relationship is ending, say goodbye. Take time to heal your broken heart and then go find a guy who appreciates your amazingness. Trust me, he’s out there! So ladies, do you know of any other signs that indicate a long distance relationship is ending?
This article was written in collaboration with editor Holly Riordan.
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