If you are in a relationship, it is hard to think clearly. Just because you care for your significant other doesn’t mean you can solve all the problems you encounter in the relationship. Once you have broken up with someone, you will gain some insight. You begin to notice every problem you had. You see they really didn’t care about you the way you cared for them. You might have been better off if you had never dated them. You might have noticed some or all of these things:
1. They Always Take and Never Give
Everybody knows there is some give and take in every relationship. But sometimes it isn’t a balanced situation. One party might give more than the other most of the time. Both parties need to be on the same level. If you find that you are the one who is constantly giving, and they are doing all the taking without giving it a second thought, this shows that they don’t value you and don’t really want you.
It doesn’t matter what your personality type is, if you love somebody and really value them, you will want to give everything to them so they feel loved and happy. If your significant other doesn’t show any signs of this, it is very safe to say they don’t feel the same way about you. You are only going to suck you dry and leave and empty shell. Each party in the relationship must give as much as they get.
2. You Can’t Depend on Them
When you encounter hard times, you hope that your partner will be there for you. You might have had a horrible day, your car broke down, or you just need a shoulder to cry on, you want your partner there to lean on. If they are never around when you need them, they just don’t care enough about you to be there for you. They focus only on themselves and don’t have the time to worry about you. They probably forget important dates, cancel dates at the last minute, or completely miss a special activity that has been planned for months. They are living in their own little world and just don’t care about anything else. If you can’t depend on your partner, they do not deserve you.
3. Cheaters and Liars
There needs to be trust in any relationship. If somebody breaks that trust, there needs to be a good reason for it. They should feel sorry and want to fix things. If your partner toys with your emotions, dates others behind your back, tricks you into doing what they want, and never care about your feelings, you need to get out of that relationship. You need to repair yourself and find somebody that truly cares for you.
4. They’re Selfish
Your relationship needs to be more like a partnership. It doesn’t matter what stage the relationship is in. Everybody that’s in a partnership needs to work together to make sure it succeeds and reaches its goals. Does your partner do things you like? Do they make sure the relationship is going well? Do they act like it’s all for them?
You don’t want somebody who just works for the team; you need somebody who is selfless. Your significant other should do things for you that doesn’t benefit them at all. This person deserves you. You shouldn’t settle for anything less.
5. They Criticize You
If your significant other belittles or criticizes you, they don’t care about you or your feelings. They actually like hurting you. If they make fun of your beliefs, dreams, job, weight, or appearance they are not worth your time. Their comments are meant to hurt you. If a person loves you, they would never want to hurt you or tear you down. They will do everything they can to support and motivate you to make you happy. They would never make you feel unhappy, self-conscious, or criticize you.