We all have past relationships, but did you know that there are actually signs your past relationship is holding you back that you should watch out for? Past relationships can hold you back from a lot, if you don't know exactly what to watch out for. They can hold you back from enjoying your current relationship, from enjoying your current boyfriend/girlfriend or even holding a current relationship steady. If you think that you might have some signs your past relationship is holding you back, but don't know what to look for, take a look below!
1. Constantly Comparing
Do you think that you are constantly comparing your currently partner to your ex? To be honest, this is definitely one of the signs your past relationship is holding you back. Your current relationship should never, ever be compared to what you had in the past. How can it? It is something new, something fresh and with someone new!
2. You Don't Put in the Effort in Your Current Relationship
How about the effort that you put into your current relationship? Does it compare to the effort that you put into the last relationship? This is huge. If you aren't giving yourself 100% to the current relationship, there has got to be a reason why. In any relationship, you want to give yourself completely to it.
3. You Resist Moving on
Or, are you the opposite, have you moved on at all? Do you resist even trying to find someone that might work for you? Is it because you are still consumed in your past relationship? This is a sticking point for a lot of people. They believe that they will never, ever find love again or that their last relationship was ideal – and that they won't find a relationship to compare to that.
4. Your Thoughts Are Consumed by Your Ex
Ah, this is one surefire sign that you are letting your past rule you. If your thoughts are totally consumed by your ex and the relationship that you had with him or her, this is another sign that you are dwelling and that your past relationship might be holding you back from enjoying something real in a new relationship.
5. You Think about Your Ex during Sex
How about sex? Do your thoughts constantly go to your ex during sex? This is bad. This means that you aren't completely committed to your current boyfriend or girlfriend and that you are consumed with your ex. Remember, you want to put in the effort in your current relationship, not let the past rule you.
6. You Judge Behaviors of Your Current Boyfriends by Your Ex
This is actually something that I do a lot in my current relationship – I let my past judge what I see in the future. This doesn't put you in a great light, in fact, it is very unfair to the person that you are in a relationship with. You don't ever want them to feel like they are constantly being compared. It can cause friction and a lot of problems.
7. You Don't Forget the past
Finally, if you just can't forget the past for anything, it's a sign that you are still obsessed with your past relationship. Remember, the past is the past and you've got to learn from it and you've got to move on. If you are in a current relationship, you've got to put forth effort.
As you can see, it's not all that easy to just forget about your past relationships, but it can be done. So, have you ever let your past relationships rule you? What'd you do about it?